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AIBU to think school should give phone back?

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wondermammy Sun 20-Jan-13 00:15:39

Hi all, my first post on here but really wanted peoples opinions on this. MY DD1 is 15 and in transition year in secondary school which i think is year 10 or 11 in england? anyways, last week DD's phone was taken off her in class for "texting"(don't suspect this as teacher has a vengeance against our family due to previous members being in school and she sits at the front , shes not stupid!!),the phone was sent to vice principals office and couldn't be retrieved for 24hrs and had to be collected by a parent/guardian!! As both DH and i work from 9-5 we couldn't collect phone and had to ask DU to collect it.DD had to do the journey home without a phone which involves a good 20-30 minute brisk walk followed by 10min journey on tram and she also does this alone. AIBU to think phone should have been given back at the end of the day and some kind of written punishment should have been given instead? if it had not of been for DU phone wouldn't of been collected at all!!!

Thanks all!

WorraLiberty Sun 20-Jan-13 00:18:44

You aren't serious are you?

Please tell me you're not...for the sake of my own mental well being.

KateBeckett Sun 20-Jan-13 00:18:51

YABU she shouldn't have had it in school.

Charliefarlie1192 Sun 20-Jan-13 00:19:14

Yabu, I did a long school journey before mobile phones were around. If she is being victimised as you suspect surely anyone else sat up front near your dd would have been able to back her up!?

WorraLiberty Sun 20-Jan-13 00:21:39

It's the 'brisk' walk and the fact she does it alone at 15 (God bless her!) that's tickled me grin

abbierhodes Sun 20-Jan-13 00:21:42

YABU. At the school I work in, mobile phones cause no end of problems and are banned for all pupils. The local police agree that they do not provide extra safety for journey's home, in fact they make children more likely to be victims of crime.

If the policy clearly states that a confiscated phone will only be returned to a parent or carer, then that is what should happen.

Oh, and YAB extra U to think that the teacher has 'framed' your poor little angel! Erm...yeah...cos we have nothing better to do! grin

The teacher wouldn't have had reason to take the phone if it was in her bag. YABU.

IneedAsockamnesty Sun 20-Jan-13 00:23:21

Yabu.

She should not have removed the phone from her bag during lessons.

Mobile phones are not essential but a parent being able to get to a school within a reasonabe time frame when there is a issue with there child's education or behaviour is essential.

Her fault getting it confiscated, your fault not being able to collect it.

HollyBerryBush Sun 20-Jan-13 00:24:00

Tough.

your DD should be learning not texting.

You knew the school rules when you enrolled her.

TuftyFinch Sun 20-Jan-13 00:25:03

Goodness me, that's shocking... I'd be up in arms.
You should contact your local paper. Or even the nationals.
Dreadful.

If she didn't have her phone out in class how did the teacher see it?

Vendetta or not no teacher would accuse someone of using something that was not visible as there is always a chance that person may not have the offending item with them and they would risk looking a fool in front of the class should they accuse someone of using something they don't have.

If the rules are anyone caught using a phone in class gets it confiscated and an adult has to pick it up then YABU.

This 'vengeance' does provide your daughter with a handy cover up for anything she does in this class though.

WorraLiberty Sun 20-Jan-13 00:28:03

Tufty does have a point.

Perhaps a really sad photo of your DD holding her phone...and you pointing to it in despair might help this dreadful matter.

I'd contact the media for sure.

SavoyCabbage Sun 20-Jan-13 00:28:14

It was quite a risk to text in a class where the teacher has a vengeance against her and makes her sit at the front through no fault of her own.

She should only 'illegally' text in classes where the teachers have not unfairly taken against her. It's just common sense.

Cheeseswept Sun 20-Jan-13 00:28:33

Where's Keema? grin

OwlCatMouse Sun 20-Jan-13 00:29:50

What is DU?

TheSecondComing Sun 20-Jan-13 00:29:56

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

TondelayoSchwarzkopf Sun 20-Jan-13 00:32:01

They should have arranged for your daughter to get a taxi home and then couriered the phone to you. On a velvet cushion.

TuftyFinch Sun 20-Jan-13 00:34:49

Yes Worra I think this calls for 'the sad face' photo.
Would you like us to start a petition OP? That might help.
I think DU is Doreen Umbrage.

Clary Sun 20-Jan-13 00:35:13

Yes if the rule is a confiscated phone has to be collected by a parent then that is the rule.

Suggest to your DD she leave her phone in her bag in future. Phones being out in lessons are the bane of my life tbh. I also feel the need to add that it's hihgly unlikely that the teacher is conducting some kind of vendetta against your daughter, honestly I cannot imagine they have the time.

I don't dislike students, I just dislike poor behaviour and bad attitude. HTH.

Clary Sun 20-Jan-13 00:35:57

LOL @ Doreen umbrage Tufty!

apostropheuse Sun 20-Jan-13 00:44:06

She had to walk home phoneless.

She will be emotionally scarred for life.

You will have to pay thousands in counselling fees.

You should sell your story to the newspapers.

It's all so tragic. sad

Why is she walking home, where was the chauffeur?

OwlCatMouse Sun 20-Jan-13 00:51:19

But what is DU?

quoteunquote Sun 20-Jan-13 00:51:50

buy her lots of spare phones so this can't happen again,

Seriously if this isn't a wind up, be really angry with her, sit her down and explain she responsible for own safety, so to lose the use of such an important item, for something so stupid as texting his really self defeating, make her buy her uncle a thank you present for bailing her out.

Owl I'm assuming its Uncle.

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