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To be sat here crying and feeling very sorry for myself :(

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Wishfulmakeupping · 18/01/2013 16:07

I'm 38 weeks in hospital since yest morning with high blood pressure not seen a doctor today but guessing I'm being kept in for minimum of another day.
Had some visitors but they've said the roads are terrible cause of snow so have told people not to come as its risky.
So now I'm say here in hospital crying (quietly so no one else on ward can hear) I want to go home and I want a cuddle from my OH can't have either just so fed up- please tell me to sort myself out literally cannot stop crying!

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DoodlesNoodles · 18/01/2013 16:09

It's the hormones, you are allowed to cry and feel sorry for yourself.
I hope you feel better soon.
Thanks

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MrsTerryPratchett · 18/01/2013 16:10

I'm not surprised you are miserable. Cry if it makes you feel better. On the plus side you will soon have a little new person to cuddle, all warm and smelling of milk. Mmmmmmm.

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DystopianReality · 18/01/2013 16:11

Oh dear, I'm sure you feel horrible. I bet you just want to be home and for everything to feel like normal, don't you? But it doesn't, it all feels surreal and you feel lonely. It will all be different soon but, I'm sure better, just different.

I would be feeling sorry for my self too.

Good luck !

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Mollydoggerson · 18/01/2013 16:12

It's hormones, don't worry it'll pass. Take care.

You are so lucky, you will have your little baby very soon and get all those beautiful new baby smells and cuddles.

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Cherriesarelovely · 18/01/2013 16:13

I'm sorry you are having a horrible time. I was also stuck in hospital this week and it was really hard without my family. You are also pregnant which makes you feel especially sensitive, don't worry, have a moan to us, have a laugh at the funny threads and you will be home before you know it. Big hugs to you x

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HollyBerryBush · 18/01/2013 16:14

Surely everyone in the ward is in the same boat? The roads are unsafe so no one will have visitors.

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McPhee · 18/01/2013 16:14

This was me 6.5months ago.

It is miserable, and like you, just wanted DP and to cry all day. It's so normal, so please don't worry. Let the tears come, snuggle down and try and get some rest. Before you know it, you'll have your new, sweet smelling baby in your arms. Smile

Flowers

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Whiteshoes · 18/01/2013 16:14

Aaawww! You're allowed to have a good cry! Bless you. You're extremely pregnant, probably a bit nervous now and the bloody snow is making it worse for you. You don't have to get a grip. The cry will do you good, I bet.

But when you're finished with the sob, can I interest you in channel 4's late afternoon programming? Can you get to a newsagents in the hospital for some magazines? Or what about down loading some radio programmes on your phone? You need treats of some sort. I recommend "I pooed on my skirt today"in mumsnet classics. You will cry with laughter. Although you might pop the baby out too.

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YorkshireDeb · 18/01/2013 16:15

I had high blood pressure too & lots of trips to hospital hooked up to silly machines. I'm not surprised you're feeling rubbish. Have you got any cash? Is there a shop in the entrance where you could buy trashy magazines & chocolate to cheer yourself up? X

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lalabaloo · 18/01/2013 16:16

Aww you poor thing, is there a nice sympathetic midwife who might be able to give you a hug and get you a cup of tea?

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DizzyHoneyBee · 18/01/2013 16:19

Hugs...I hope you are feeling happier now. Soon you will have a snuggly new baby and lots of hugs from him/her.

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ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee · 18/01/2013 16:19


Hormones are right little bastards! The best thing you can do is not to expect to feel normal and just go with, however, you feel :)

You have MN the WWW you have loads to read, see, do :)

Read some of the classic threads, you'll be feeling better in no time.

Not long now until you'll have your baby and no time to yourself - try to make the msot of it :) x
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peacefuloptimist · 18/01/2013 16:24

Aww wishful (unmumsnetty hug)

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BookieMonster · 18/01/2013 16:31

Thanks. You're fine to have a wee cry. Try and get some rest.

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Wishfulmakeupping · 18/01/2013 16:36

Thanks all
Have had my little cry and feel a bit better for it. I may treat myself to another later on if needed ;)
Stack of trashy mags ready and waiting so will make a start on those.
Think the other issue was no one has really texted me to see if I'm ok :( obviously people busy with snow but still feeling a bit neglected that said I did choose to only tell a few close family/friends cause didn't see the need to make a big deal of it.

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nickelbabe · 18/01/2013 16:39

i know you must be feeling awful right now, and {{{hugs}}}

It makes me think of when I was in hospital just after I had DD and my phone ran out of battery (no charger) so I couldn't even ring or text.
and no internet (the phone wouldn't have done that anyway)

clumsily saying thank heavens for small things.

but Thanks because you must be feeling rotten and
Brew
Bear
and
Chocolate

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mrswoz · 18/01/2013 16:56

OP I remember that feeling well, so thinking of you and wishing you a speedy escape! If you can get some fresh air that may help you feel more cheerful?

I had to stay in a few extra days due to BP issues after my last baby was born, and I had to do a lot of the reminding/chasing up myself, as the staff weren't monitoring the BP closely and so Dr was not aware of anything, poor mw were really overstretched. I was desperate to get out as had 2 other small DC at home, always got the feeling the world stops in hospital yet carries on outside - that sounds weird! I think sometimes friends and family forget how friggin miserable it can be in hospital.

Wish I had known about mumsnet classics while I was in, I didn't find those threads until I spent a lot of time on the internet at home while feeding Grin they've kept me going many a long night.

Good luck with your new baby!

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HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 18/01/2013 16:59

Hi Wishful, have followed you over here from your double posted thread!

Having had fairly long hospital stays pre-birth with both DD's, I am of course a highly-qualified expert in this field. I therefore give you the following prescription:

Chocolate
Cup of tea
Trashy magazines
Mumsnet
Facebook status update to generate sympathetic comments and messages. (nb this is a dangerous substance and only prescribed in emergency situations)
Gossip with nurses / midwives, as available
(((Hugs)))

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Fakebook · 18/01/2013 17:19

Don't worry, the end is in sight now! Crying is good! I cried a day before I went into labour because I asked DH to take dd to the park and he didn't ask if I wanted to come. So I left the house after crying and went to the park and they weren't there. He'd taken her to get a take away. Cue more crying...that night I had my show.

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Pigsmummy · 18/01/2013 18:43

Hot chocolate, that will help. They do it on the ward. Not much longer now. Best wishes xx

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oopsadaisymaisy · 18/01/2013 18:58

Hi op, wow, pregnancy hormones are crazy. They're so strong aren't they. Its not surprising in the circumstances that you're feeling emotional. But hey, a new baby. Oh my goodness, so amazing. Big hugs. Before you know it everyone you love will be with you.

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SageYourResoluteOracle · 18/01/2013 19:40

Oh love. It's awful being stuck in hospital.

Do you feel okay physically? High BP ain't fun. But hang on in there and be very, very glad that you have us lot to stalk you pay you virtual visits.

Do you like jokes?! I know a good limerick!

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BumpingFuglies · 18/01/2013 19:44

Hi Wish sorry you are feeling sad. It's a shit night to be in hospital without your OH. Cry if you want and keep talking! The lovely MNetters are here and will keep you company Thanks for you and especially

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BumpingFuglies · 18/01/2013 19:45

Sage, what's your limerick? Smile

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