We have just started potty training DD (2.5) and she has done really well at home. 3 accidents on the first day, 2 on the second (including a party in a play area) and none at home since. The thing is, on her first day at nursery she had 5 accidents and they said that she wouldn't go on the toilet and went as soon as she'd got off. I had to tell them that she wasn't yet used to the toilet and asked them to just put her on the potty at regular intervals.
When I collected her from nursery on the second day, this is what happened;
DD comes running over to me, excited to see me. I picked her up and her key worker immediately said 'We've had a few accidents today, haven't we' to DD who replied 'Yes'. I asked if it was less than yesterday to which she said, 'About the same'. She said all this whilst looking at DD with a disappointed look on her face. On looking at her sheet, she had only had 2 accidents, which I think was quite good for her second day at nursery. She told me DD had only weed on the potty once, however another nursery worker told me she had been more than once with her. I just don't think they communicate or take DD as often as necessary. I know nursery is more interesting than being at home and DD is likely to forget whilst she is there, however she hasn't had any accidents at all at home and we take her out and about every day. I also know they have a room full of children and we only have DD to potty train (I worked in a nursery for 6 years) however I don't think it's unreasonable at the prices we pay for them to take her to the potty regularly during the start of potty training.
The thing that has annoyed me the most is a 'story' that her key worker told me. She said that when DD had wet herself, she took her to change her and said to DD 'You're a silly moo aren't you?' to which DD replied, No, I'm a silly girl'. Her key worker then said, 'No, you're a silly moo' and DD said, 'No, Daddy's a silly moo'. She thought this was funny and told me in that context, however I'm not happy with her calling DD a 'silly moo' at all, especially just because she had an accident whilst potty training. I'm also not happy that DD said she was a silly girl for having an accident.
So, do you think I am unreasonable for being annoyed that a) the first thing key worker said to me, in front of DD, was that she had had some accidents today in a disappointed tone. DD appeared to be upset by this as she would not look at me whilst this was being said b) they don't appear to be taking DD to the potty enough and therefore she is having more accidents and c) calling DD a silly moo when she did have an accident. I know 'silly moo' was said in a joking fashion, but still.
I haven't said anything to the nursery as I may just be over thinking things as we tend to do with our own children, but just wanted some opinions on here.
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amatuermummy · 17/01/2013 05:28
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