I spend most of my time with children in a variety of capacities, but don't have one of my own.
It is getting to the time when I need to start thinking about whether having children of my own is what I really want. I sometimes feel that as I do so much for other people's children (I don't mean at work but outside of work) it would be a shame if I didn't have my own to do those things with.
However, I often read things on here and think 'what's the big deal' - I don't mean that nastily but I just don't get when people say they couldn't leave a 3 month old to go out for the evening - I keep thinking to myself I would be more than happy to leave a baby with my mum or MIL. There are other things on a similar vein but I can't think of any examples right now.
I obviously like children, otherwise I wouldn't spend as much time as I do with them but I do worry that I actually don't have a maternal instinct. I do care very much about the children I look after but I got called heartless by one of my Guide helpers last year on camp when I wasn't giving a homesick girl enough attention (my helper has the luxury of being able to do this - I had 49 others to also ensure were ok).
It really concerns me that I will have a child and not bond with it properly. Do these feelings just come to you, or should I already be able to understand why people can't leave their babies on their own or leave them to cry? (ps, I don't judge people who won't leave their babies etc).
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teacherandguideleader · 03/01/2013 11:08
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