to have fed my baby here?

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ariane5 Mon 03-Dec-12 11:08:35

Went shopping yesteerday.ds1. Jas a blu badge so we parked in a disabled space.went to shops and back to car couple of hours later. We have 4 dcs and the baby 7 mths started screaming and was hungry.by then the car park was packd. I started to feed ds while dh got other dcs in car and an elderly couple drove past and politely asked if we were leaving, dh said sorry not yet then 2 other drivers did the same but the fourth stopped got out and said please could we hurry up, I explained that when I had fed ds we would be going but she was really angry and said a disabled space is not just for sitting in that we should go immediately. I was only another ten mins fding ds it is hard enough going out as all dcs have same condition and ds2 was really screaming I had to feed him as it was a long drive home. Was I being unreasonable?

ariane5 Mon 03-Dec-12 11:10:23

Sorry for lack of paragraphs and bad spelling-on blackbrry and half the keys are 'sticky'

ariane5 Mon 03-Dec-12 11:10:24

Sorry for lack of paragraphs and bad spelling-on blackbrry and half the keys are 'sticky'

Well they're being illogical to com

takataka Mon 03-Dec-12 11:11:15

no...its non of her business how long you will be in the parking space

Blue badges allow cars to be used as a 'refuge' as well as a transport method so yanbu at all.

quietlysuggests Mon 03-Dec-12 11:15:06

I would have pulled out of the spot and double parked to feed the baby.
You could easily doublepark where as someone coming at the start of their shop cannot.
So I dont think you were very considerate really.
Especially as you had your husband with you, why could you not just sit and feed and let your DH pull out and free up the space?

choceyes Mon 03-Dec-12 11:15:19

no YANBU in my opinion. What if you had gone into the shops to feed the baby instead? Your DH and DCs would still have to be waiting for you won't they and taking up the space? Can't see what else you could have done.

pELFicFloorClenchReminder Mon 03-Dec-12 11:15:56

YANBU - Agree it's none of her business. A screaming baby is more important than someone getting to a shop. And driving with a screaming baby is extremely stressful and probably dangerous!

ariane5 Mon 03-Dec-12 11:17:06

I did not know they could also be used as a 'refuge' I did feel very vulnerable with somebody so irate with me whilst I was bf and other dcs in car.would have fed ds in a shop but h gets so distracted and over tired the dark in car park calmed him down enough after screaming to feed untill I got shouted at !

ariane5 Mon 03-Dec-12 11:17:08

I did not know they could also be used as a 'refuge' I did feel very vulnerable with somebody so irate with me whilst I was bf and other dcs in car.would have fed ds in a shop but h gets so distracted and over tired the dark in car park calmed him down enough after screaming to feed untill I got shouted at !

CwtchesAndCuddles Mon 03-Dec-12 11:19:11

Sorry - as a blue badge holder I think you were unreasonable to stay there to feed, I would have moved the car so that others needing the space could have it.

I would have be annoyed if I needed that space.

ariane5 Mon 03-Dec-12 11:19:22

Couldn't double park-was multi storey and w would have been in the one way lane blocking every car from driving past

baublesandbaileys Mon 03-Dec-12 11:19:29

YANBU because if you had stayed inside longer in order to feed in the cafe etc then you would have vacated the space at the same time as you did by feeding in the car - possibly longer if you ordered coffees etc in order to sit in the cafe

Janeatthebarre Mon 03-Dec-12 11:19:34

YABU. If the car park was packed then you were preventing a disabled driver from being able to do their shopping. I agree that you could have double parked or could you not have breastfed while DH drove the car?

threesocksfullofchocs Mon 03-Dec-12 11:19:55

yabu
you should have moved

baublesandbaileys Mon 03-Dec-12 11:20:50

"YABU. If the car park was packed then you were preventing a disabled driver from being able to do their shopping."
?? but so was everyone else who was parked in the disabled spaces.. and they might have been having a REALLY leisurely lunch themselves before meandering back with a bit of window shoppping - which is not UR either!

toofattorun Mon 03-Dec-12 11:20:52

I can see both sides. I would say that if there were other spaces, I would have driven into another space but as you say, there were no spaces so I don't think YWBU.

Sorry, don't know what happened there.

Well they're being illogical to comPlain really, because if you'd fed in a supermarket cafe you'd actually take just as long, if nOt longer by the time you'd sat down, fed, then gone back to your space. Not sure how you could've pointed that out though!

SantaWearsGreen Mon 03-Dec-12 11:20:59

I do think yabu actually.

You could have driven nearer the exit and stayed there to feed. Didn't need to keep a limited space that people needed.

pELFicFloorClenchReminder Mon 03-Dec-12 11:21:05

Breastfeed a baby in a moving car?? confused

baublesandbaileys Mon 03-Dec-12 11:21:34

"YABU. If the car park was packed then you were preventing a disabled driver from being able to do their shopping."
?? but so was everyone else who was parked in the disabled spaces.. and they might have been having a REALLY leisurely lunch themselves before meandering back with a bit of window shoppping - which is not UR either!

Pootles2010 Mon 03-Dec-12 11:23:51

YANBU - can't believe people think she should bf whilst dh drives! Slightly dangerous?!

IIWY I would have told them I was waiting for someone else to get back to the car - I do that sometimes when people start getting glarey at me when I'm sitting in my car eating a sandwich, writing a text, whatever, when a car park is busy. But anyway, YANBU.

takataka Mon 03-Dec-12 11:24:51

exactly twelve...plenty of spaces being occupied whilst mothers feeding babies in Starbucks, or feeding own face...

it is not the womens business what OP does whilst parked

OP shouldnt occupy space to feed baby, but should vacate so that other woman can park up and go shopping?? confused

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