to dislike getting texts?

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I get no signal at work, so if someone texts, I don't get it til Im in the car on the way home. I pick up the baby, go home, play for a bit with her, make dinner, tidy up, shower and bed. Somewhere in the midst of this I look at the text and think "i'll reply when I get a minute". Usually that chance is only there at this sort of time when I get to bed.

Certain friends who text will, in response to my reply, engage in a lengthy to-and-fro conversation which I can't always do at this time of night. The texts are general "hey, how are you?" sort of ones and, to be totally honest, small talk.

I am very much of the mindset of if we have news, or want to arrange a meet up then by all means text or call, but I assume a default setting of "everyone is doing fine". I have some friends who seem to work like this, and we have no need to regularly text and ask how the other is etc, and as and when we meet up we catch up.

But it's the ones who don't think along these lines that cause me guilt. I eventually replied to a text from a couple of days ago tonight, at a friend's birthday party during a conversation lul, and the texting went back and forth when eventually I just coulnd't reply due to not wanting to be on my phone most of the night. So I still ended up feeling bad for not replying.

Am I overthinking this?

I wish nobody would ever text me.

LesleyPumpshaft Sun 07-Oct-12 19:00:34

Lost in two sentences? Now thats an example of what texting does to thinking.

But sowornout doesn't text. confused

I know MrsRobertDuvallHasRosacea. Carry your mobiles! Won't somebody please think of the children etc etc.

stella1w Sun 07-Oct-12 22:46:53

I flew 3500 miles this week for the funeral of a v dear friend. While there I met up with another v g friend. We got a babysitter and had our first dc-free night out for five years at no little expense. She txted throughout the meal.

Aspiemum2 Sun 07-Oct-12 22:55:49

I quite like texts apart from one friend in particular who seems oblivious to common courtesy. She texts at 3am on a regular basis, in fact she sent one of her famous 3am texts when she knew I was in hospital having given birth to twins less than 24 hours before!! Luckily phone wasn't with me but she still does it (have asked her not to) angryangry
Now leave my phone downstairs for this very reason - luckily the twins are a good alarm grin

deleted203 Mon 08-Oct-12 01:48:04

stella shock Did you manage to bite your tongue???

stella1w Mon 08-Oct-12 08:42:02

Yes, because i fear the cultural norm is to text! Ironically when i visit this friend she is pretty much on her ipad all the time.. I think she treats it like tv used to be used back in the day. So i suggested we go out in the hopes we could have a proper catch up. It halfworked.

Bunbaker Mon 08-Oct-12 09:00:54

I think it is rude to carry on a text conversation when you are with other people. We all have mobile phones, but don't use them a lot. I text to make arrangements, but not to have "conversations". I would rather talk to people face to face or chat on the phone.

DD (12) is at high school and gets a bus, so I feel happier that she has a phone in case the bus breaks down. I like her to carry her phone with her when she goes about with her friends in the village or the shopping mall. OH travels a lot and I like to know that he has reached his destination safely.

And when all my nearest and dearest are with me the phone gets turned off.

ThreeEdgedSword Mon 08-Oct-12 20:27:16

If I'm out and my phones rings (or bleeps at me) I'll check who it is. If it's important (babysitter) I'll excuse myself and answer it. If not, it goes back in my bag. I get a lot of "who was that?" "Nobody who can't wait" situations, but if I'm out with a friend I cba to deal with texts and phone calls.

When I'm at home, I'm terrible. I frequently leave it in the bedroom or bathroom, found it in the kitchen cupboard the other day confused. Without fail, when this happens I don't have a single text or missed call. Hooray for everyone else working.

Not sure I could go without it though, I don't have a landline for emergencies.

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