To be gutted I didn't get the job....

[Supercalafraj]

Had an interview last friday. Arranged for someone to collect ds1 and ds2 from school. Drove to another town to drop baby of with my mum then drove into city for interview. Paid £11 for carpark. Spent 2hours doing interview and assessments.

Got a call back today very employable blah blah passed assessments blah blah very high standard of applicants on the day blah blah.

Aibu to be gutted and not want to go through the whole process of apply, interview, arrange childcare for the baby, pay £11 for parking.

Just want to cry but holding it together til kids go to bed.

[cazza40]

Yanbu to be gutted but please do not give up !

[WillSingForCake]

Bah, poor you, that's rotten luck. Something else will come along better than this job, and you'll always think 'thank god I didn't get that first job, it wasn't half as good as this new one'!

[HexGirl]

Awww have some . I know exactly how you feel as I was in the same position a few weeks ago. It's gutting and a little bit of your confidence is chipped away.

I try (although not always successfully) to tell myself that it is because something even better is just waiting around the corner. Also, and it is a total cliche but at least you know you perform well in interviews so it is just a matter of time before you get something. It does totally suck however having to deal with all the practical arrangements and expenses etc.

[Supercalafraj]

When they call you it's horrible because you have to be polite and professional when really it has such a massive impact on everything, the bills, the kids birthdays, buying uniforms and shoes.

I know so many people are in the same situation and I'm being selfish but so so gutted.

[SoleSource]

Something better will come along, you get to choose who you work for too, remember :)

[KateBeckett]

I recently spent almost a year looking for work. I would regularly feel so disheartened I'd want to give up / punch things / cry.

My best friend always used to remind me that the author of The Help was rejected 60 times before she got her book published. It kept me going. Keep at it xx

[Supercalafraj]

Aww you guys are really sweet thank you so much. I had a stomping headache which put me in an even worse mood and couldn't find any paracetamol but I've had some carpool now so should start feeling better in a bit

[Supercalafraj]

Calpol not carpool

[WhataTreat]

Sucks doesn't it!

I had the old rejection email on Monday after two lengthy interviews. I asked for feedback and was given the 'lack of experience' line. I replied very politely asking for something more constructive as HOW CAN I GAIN EXPERIENCE IF NOWHERE WILL BLOODY EMPLOY ME! And breeeaathe.

Really hope you find something soon, and something better at that! And have a little cry if you need it, I did .

[Springhasarrived]

In the good old days you used to get expenses for interviews. At least it softened the blow that you at least got your train fare back or whatever.

You have my complete sympathy OP. It happened to me a few months ago and I just couldnt stop crying with frustration at it all. I now have a job I like and I am glad I didnt get the other job. Keep going . There is a job out there with your name on it!

[Supercalafraj]

Whatatreat just an email ! That's crap at least when someone calls you, you know they must be feeling a bit bad too but an email is harsh.

Are you still looking for something else? I just don't know how I'll go into another interview without a chip on my shoulder.

[wild]

I have one tomorrow, I am dreading it tbh

[HexGirl]

Good luck wild and sending positive vibes your way

[wild]

Thanks a lot, and same to anyone looking at the moment
I have just finished training and everyone on my course but me has a job for September, as super says it's hard to keep your chin up and keep going - but it's the only thing to do

[INeverFinishAnythi]

YANBU. It sucks. I do have a job now, but only after months of looking and unsuccessful interviews. And of all the jobs I applied for, I've actually ended up with the best one in terms of money and hours. So please don't give up, or let it drag you down. Something else will come along, and it might well be better. I know it doesn't feel like it today but it will. Onwards and upwards. Very best of luck to you OP, and to everyone else looking too.

[LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726]

Aww, so sorry. It's so rough when you put your all into an interview and you don't get the job. When you've had your cry and it doesn't hurt so much, could you maybe ring and get some specific feedback? This can never hurt your chances - and you never know when an opening may come about.

Onwards and upwards, you did a great interview and only one person could be appointed that time. Who knows what will happen next. Keep punching for your dream job! [flowerforyou]

[leftangle]

YANBU - It's really hard. At least you got good feedback. And even an interview is good to get, proves you've got something right. Even if it doesn't feel like being worth the effort at the moment when it something does come up, and it will, it will make up for all the bad ones.

One of the interviews I attended recently didn't even bother contacting me to let me know I'd not got the job. I rang to ask for feedback and they said they'd call me but still haven't. Maybe I have the job and don't know it? Bitter!

[PissyDust]

I really feel for those looking for work, well done for holding your head high and carrying on.

I know a company that has lots of opportunities of vacancies, I can't post it as it would out me but feel free to pm me for a link.

[UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea]

Super

Read the really nice things they said about you and believe them.

You'll do even better the next time, and you'll get the right job for you.

[ajandjjmum]

I'm sure something will come along OP - nice glass of wine tonight though!

Whatatreat - I'd be mad at that - presumably your lack of experience was evident on your CV, so why did they waste your time with interviews!

Good luck everyone job hunting!

[happyAvocado]

treat it like a training for a PROPER job interview ;)

no one likes to be turned down...

but if you send 10 applications and at the same time another 9 people apply for identical jobs, each of you may be called for 9 unsuccessful interviews :)