A couple of months ago my Dad announced that he was "having a party on 3rd June." No word of can you come, I need help with the food or anything like that. He's not asked my opinion on food or shopping or anything.
I told him that as it was Jubilee party day I was involved in something in the village (which is going to be blocked off due to street party) and although I'd try and make it to his house at some point, not to count on us being there as it could be awkward. He seems to have invited 12 Jubilee refusniks, so that's fine I thought.
Also, he's moving house 10 days after that, so under those circumstances his friend offered to have the party at his house. Having spoken to an organiser of the village thing, it turns out that the streets will be blocked from 9am, and I'm at work till 11.00 anyway.
Today it turns out that he's going ahead with the party at his house and IS EXPECTING ME TO HELP! When I told him it was looking less likely than ever that we'd be able to go, he went into one saying he couldn't cope with the catering on his own and he might as well cancel the party.
Well, er, like how about having asked me if I could help a couple of months ago so I could have arranged time off work? As I suffer from CFS, once I have been to work I am not able to move out of bed or do anything else physical for the rest of the day.
So do I tell him No is a complete sentence? Or should I treat him to caterers (err, no kitchen not suitable) or a delivery of party food? I know I should not be feeling blackmailed by this but I am.
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Mandy2003 · 26/05/2012 20:18
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