I?ve always believed that relationships work best if they?re slow burners, beginning with friendship and getting to know one another really thoroughly before the romantic bit kicks in. I?m also painfully shy ? love spending time with my close friends but I?m not a socialiser really, hate parties where I don?t know many people and that sort of thing. As a result, I?ve had only one serious relationship in my life ? lost my virginity to him aged 23, we were together for 4 years and he?s still one of my best friends. I haven?t dated anyone since we split and have been quite happily single for a couple of years now. I always imagined that when I next fell for someone it would be like it was last time ? friendship, then more ? and was quite happy with that.
Then I met Him ? a barman at one of my favourite pubs. At first there was just a magnetic physical attraction ? I?ve never had any interest in one night stands (no moral or religious objections, they?ve just never appealed), but this man I just wanted to sleep with then and there, something I?m not used to. So I start flirting, he flirts back, we start talking, we get on, he seems to be working up to asking me out ? and suddenly I?m thinking about him non-stop, having dreams about him, planning our fantasy future. And I don?t bloody know the guy! Seriously, his first name, his job, a few shared laughs ? that?s all I have to go on. This is NOT me. At all. And I?m pissed off with myself because it?s like all my rationality has buggered off in the space of a couple of months.
What I want to hear is lots of nice stories about how you knew the moment you met ?the one?, that sometimes you just know someone is going to figure hugely in your life without reason coming into play. What I probably need to hear is that I?m being a twat, hence why I?m posting in AIBU rather than one of the other less scary boards.
So go on. Is ?love at first sight? a thing ? and if so, is this it? Or do I just need a boot up the arse and a cold shower?
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ItWasABoojum · 26/04/2012 23:38
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