To have called wondering when appt is?

[picklechops]

Disclaimer- I am in the uk but not mainland/nhs

I had DS 10 months ago. Botched birth. Near fatal hemmorrage, totally F*cked episiotomy that went on to unravel and took 10 weeks to heal. I found it never really got comfortable so to speak but everyone kept saying "oh never mind, it'll settle down."

It didn't. So 10 weeks ago I went back to GP and she swabbed just in case and when the results came back clear a week later, sent off a referral letter to see consultant ob/gyn. There was a six week wait. Fine

Saw the consultant last Tuesday, first appt. I stressed that ten months on I was a bit fed up of all this and ready to just have it sorted. No problem he said, we will fix you up, I just want to refer you first to see another consultant (due to some accompanying problems I'm having). That's all fine. I asked how long the wait was likely to be. Well he said, I'm not sure about her waiting list but I will write the letter right now and get it sent. Good.

So today, nearly two weeks on, I've not had a date thru for seeing this other consultant. I politely called and asked if perhaps it had been lost in the post or not sent out yet, could I please have the date ? The receptionist wasn't very happy. Told me I was phoning too quick and that I needed to appreciate these things take time. That the referral letter wouldn't have been sent until last Friday and the doctor didn't even see it until this Monday. I just sort of said um, right ok then.

So I get things can take awhile but well, I thought nearly two weeks was fairly generous for an appointment to be made given the consultant was so insistent he'd have it done straight away. I guess I'm still a little pissed off with my birth and finding this just another way of them being a bit hopeless. Or- AIBU?

[WibblyBibble]

YANBU at all.

[Housewifefromheaven]

Medical receptionists are all evil. Yanbu :)

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

I suspect that all the trauma of your birth experience is colouring the way you see the NHS at the moment - but I don't blame you for that one bit. Unfortunately admin does tend to be very slow within hospitals, so two weeks is not long for this to be sorted out, in normal circumstances, however, given what has happened to you, if I were your gynae consultant, I would have done whatever I could to hurry things along.

I hope that your appointment comes through soon, and that you can start healing from all this.

[Treefutom]

No YA def NBU.

[LaDiDaDi]

what probably happened is that Consultant dictated letter after his clinic on Tues, secretary typed it up Weds/Thurs, Consultant saw it to sign on Friday (perhaps after sec had left) and then not sent til Mon or at least not redceived til Mon.

hope you will hear soon

[JosieZ]

If you phone the hospital and ask to speak to Mr/Mrs Consultant's secretary you might have success. This has worked for me sometimes, you can ask when appt is and if you tell your unlucky story she might just squeeze you in somewhere at an earlier date. But you need to know the name of the consultant you are being referred to.

[hairytaleofnewyork]

Yanbu. Kick up a fuss. Write a complaint letter detailing all the problems since the beginning, explaining your quality of life is affected. That will probably speed things up.