To text back saying GO AWAY

[runningaway]

or words to that effect.
Background so that I am not drip feeding
I have name changed for this

My girlfriend broke up with me at the start of febuary cause she wasn't sure of her sexuality and needed to sort out her head without being in a relationship, can we still be friends. I was the picture of niceness, I said not to worry not your fault of course i will still be friends. No hard feelings.
Turns out 3 hours later the guy she had been texting posted that he was in a relatioship, she went to his 2 days later said this was the first time they were together until I pointed out to her that I had seen the fb status and of course she was lying.
She now talks to me about him, and I pretend it's okay. But it's not it's killing me. Her new relationship is a no strings attached type thing , so she also tells me about guys she would like to 'do' and that her mother is happy with this.
Or to tell me about all the new people she has met and all the fun she has had and I can't tell if she is trying to rub my nose in it or if she is just talking cause I try to pretend like it's all okay. All she knows is that it upset me that she ended it over text, which she has said she was sorry for but that it was better that way. She texts me asking me not to hate myself or do anything stupid (which i won't) , and that she couldn't live with herself if I did.
I did want to be friends when I said it but now I don't know, I don't like who she seems to have turned into and I am at a loss as of what to do cause I am fed up of talking to her most of the time now cause it just hurts me , a part of me wants to be friends but a part of me just wants it to stop hurting.

[FreudianSlipper]

yes

just say that you no longer want to be friends please do not contact me anymore

you can not be friends when you still want to be with someone or getting over them all you are doing is hurting yourself

[MotherMucca]

Cut her out of your life, you will feel much better.

[Makeminealarge]

It's time to let go and move on. You can still be friends but from a distance. I would tell her that you would like to be friends but not close enough to tell every sordid detail of her new relationships. I think that's quite inappropriate IMO. It's still early days and very normal if you are hurt by her behaviour. If she won't take your feelings into consideration then personally I think you are better off without her completely. Ask yourself what you would gain by remaining friends?

[Shutupanddrive]

Tell her to piss off! It's not ok so don't pretend that it is

[HalfPastWine]

Cut all ties and move on.

[WelshMoth]

Just block her number OP. Simple cut-off. Anything else will prolong the contact.

I'm sorry you are hurting - it will pass if you give it time.

[Jux]

Forget her. Either block her, or just tell to go away and then don't reply to any communication she tries to have with you. Block her on fb too.

[maddening]

being friends rarely works out, you need time away to get over it, this is like picking at a scab, maybe in time you can be friends but at the mo you need time and space

[WibblyBibble]

YANBU even a tiny little bit. She sounds very irritating.

[TroublesomeEx]

I would cut all ties and move on too.

A friend of mine had a similar problem a few months ago. The girl had started seeing a boy but still talked to my friend about being 'confused' and talked about how valuable their friendship was and how she wasn't 100% sure they couldn't get back together...

We concluded that she just enjoyed the idea that she had a boy and a girl just where she wanted them and got a bit of a kick out of it.

She cut all ties and is now happy with someone else.

Sorry you're hurting, but I don't think this is doing you any favours.

[cherrytopping]

Actually I wouldn't text back and say go away, as it gives her power and the opportunity to text back.

I just wouldn't reply. If you don't feel you can deal with her anymore. Just don't.

[plutocrap]

In this scenario, you are the one being the friend, while she is being very selfish. As she's not living up to her side of the friendship, you really don't have to feel guilty about finally ending it properly (and from your tone, you will still do that nicely).

Has her selfish behaviour helped you yet, to not like her?

[Lueji]

I agree.
Move on.

[TheCraicDealer]

My mate is being strung along by her (abusive) ex who keeps telling her that he "wants to stay friends". Like I say to her, who'd want a friend like that?! Block and delete.

[CaoNiMa]

Sounds like a case for Jezza...

[SarahDoctorIndyHouse]

Why on earth would you say that CaoNiMa?

[Pandemoniaa]

Agreed. What an utterly bizarre comment/

[bibbityisaporker]

Yes, text back "go away, I don't want to hear from you again" and then ignore. And, then, in a few days time when you are healing nicely, breathe an enormous sigh of relief that you are no longer in a relationship with this tremendously irritating person.

[DesperatelySeekingSedatives]

Nah, don't text her back. She's dying for attention. She'll be pissed off/truly flummoxed when she gets nothing out of you. She probably gets a huge kick out of having 2 people crazy over her. Block her from FB/ your phone or change your number. Get rid. She's no friend.

[w3dnesday]

I agree with the poster who suggested not texting at all.
Just gradually phase her out. Texting her with 'go away' will give her the drama i'm sure she craves

[GoingForGoalWeight]

Oh, just get rid of the fecking mess. Unless there are children there is never any need to try and become/stay friendly with an ex.

You deserve someone for you!

Good luck :)

[fabwoman]

She has a very high opinion of herself doesn't she? Is it warranted?

And Ywnbu.