Sorry - this will probably be wrong to make sure that I get all the relevant info in My dad died when I was 16 and 15 years later my mum remarried (and my granny died). My mum remarried a divorcee and so she took alot more money into teh marriage - basically all her house etc and all my grandma's house. Consequently when my mum and her new husband, let's call him G, married and bought a house together she always said that her will reflected that her % share in teh house so that her children (me and my sister) would get the rightful proportion back. She must have said this several hundred times!!
Fast forward to January 2009 after 14 years of marriage to G, my mum is diagnosed with a brain tumour, has it removed, has chemo etc but was never ever back to her original self. So in June 2009 her and G remade their wills. Again my mum said that me and my sister would get teh lions share of the value of the house, but they had mutual / mirror wills and the money would go in trust until G died so that he would still be able to afford to live somehwere etc. Likewise on nearly every visit she made sure that I knew which pieces of furniture were hers, or my grannys etc but G could use them until he died. nothing was individually listed in the will as that would have cost more and she was making sure that our family's belongings ended up with our family and not her husban'd schildren (one of whom she didn'ty get on with)
October 2010 my mum died and her husband is sorting out her will / probate / setting up the trust fund for me and my sister - all fine. Except that he's now saying that the house is 50/50. He has also met a new woman, let's call her j, and is getting married later this year. They'll be buying a new house together. I asked him about my mum's furniture and belongings and he said they were his to do what he wanted with as the will left everything to him. If there was anything in particular that I wanted, to let him know and he'd consider it. But if he needed anything for the new house with J he would tak eit and it would become J's on his death because he wouldn't leave his new wife without any furniture.
but this furniture, or pictures, or china or whatever belongs rightfully in my family doesn't it? Some of it was my grandma's. Surely it's not right that some other family, that has no link to ours will benefit from my mum's or my granny's belongings. i want to be able to pass them onto my children, if nothing else. And also to change the % of how much of the house is his and how much was my mum's?
AIBU?! Or is there anything that I can do?
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to just want some of my mum's and my granny's possessions and a fair share of her house
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NappyShedSal · 02/02/2012 12:00
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