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Selling a present my daughter was given and putting it in her bank account

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dollywashers · 20/11/2011 22:00

My daughter (7) was given a very expensive children's bracelet for her birthday by a school friend. Going for about £100 on e bay. I hadn't even heard of this type of bracelet but my Mum and BF were shocked that some random child from her class would give a present so expensive so I checked the price of them.

She is a total tomboy and is not in the least bit bothered about the bracelet plus it's a child's so not like she might like it later on. If I give it to her it will either just lie around her room or she'll lose it.

AIBU to sell it on e bay and put the money in her bank account? She wouldn't notice it was gone and I wouldn't tell her.

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zookeeper · 20/11/2011 22:02

YANBU but are you sure your dd's friend didn't raid her mum's jewellery box?Smile

ChaosTrulyReigns · 20/11/2011 22:02

I think I would have clarified with the friend's parents that it was actually meant to be given to my DD.

[gulp]

Slightlyreluctantexpat · 20/11/2011 22:05

Also, are you sure it's the genuine article? Plenty of much cheaper copies available. I'm thinking Pandora style bracelets.

aquafunf · 20/11/2011 22:05

thats just wrong.

keep it safe for her, let her wear it for special occasions.

no good will come of selling it. ( why was it given to her? are friends parents well off, like Branson rich or something? )

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dollywashers · 20/11/2011 22:05

I did send a thank you text (and my daughter sent a letter) saying thank you for the lovely bracelet and she didn't say anything.

I'm wondering if someone gave it to her daughter and she didn't realise how much they cost. We usually get and recieve gifts in the region of £10-£20 for school friends.

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pigletmania · 20/11/2011 22:06

I agree with chaos and if it was, I would ask your dd what she wants to do with it, keep it or sell it, its up to her, its her present.

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dollywashers · 20/11/2011 22:06

No it was in the original box and bag so it's real. Plus got markings on it.

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dollywashers · 20/11/2011 22:12

She would probably choose to sell it but if I gave her the choice worried she would tell the school friend who would then tell her Mum. Blush

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feedthegoat · 20/11/2011 22:16

Box and bag isn't a given for it being the genuine article I'm afraid. I don't know what brand yours is but the Pandora copies I have seen also came with box and bag.

ImperialBlether · 20/11/2011 22:17

I think you need to check with the mum that she realises how expensive it is. She might be regifting and not realise.

RandomMess · 20/11/2011 22:20

You can get fakes with bags, boxes etc etc

You could text and say "I'm just checking this is a fake and not the real thing-LOL" type of thing...

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dollywashers · 20/11/2011 22:23

It's not a Pandora.And from markings I'm pretty sure it's real. Think I would be a bit offended if someone text me that. I don't know the mum that well. Maybe I will just keep it for when she's older.

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SparkleSoiree · 20/11/2011 22:24

If it s a genuine present meant for your DD why sell it? Keep for her until she is old enough to appreciate it.

I have one or two gifts given to my daughters over their lives which I have 'retained' for when they are older.

IneedAbetterNickname · 20/11/2011 22:26

My friends DS was given a brand new innotab (or something similar, it cost about £60) from a friend at pre-school. When she asked the other Mum, the Mum said that as her DS doesn't have any siblings, and the child who recieved the gift was his best-friend, she spent the same as she would have if they were siblings! Bit mad IMO, but some people DO spend that much on gifts!

Cinders22 · 20/11/2011 22:28

I would keep it for a few months just to be sure there was not an error from the sender then when everyone has forgotten about it, sell it and buy your daughter something else with the money.

mamamoonmim · 20/11/2011 22:30

Please don't do as RansomMess says and check that it's not the real thing-LOL
I hate fake laughs, they drive me mental. It's really weird to laugh at something that isn't even a joke or funny.

seeker · 20/11/2011 22:31

I would check with the other parent. You can't assume they knew the value of the present-I think it would be immoral not to talk about it with them.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 20/11/2011 22:31

Why not get in touch with the parents and say you're really touched by the gift but you're not comfortable accepting something of that value?

If it is a fake, they will doubtless get back saying 'nope, it's a knock-off' and will be chuffed it was realistic.

RandomMess · 20/11/2011 22:33

If you sell it and it's fake then you could end up in trouble so somehow you need to find out either way. I just can't imagine anyone giving a gift of that value!

philmassive · 20/11/2011 22:37

I'd sit on it for a few months and if your dd doesn't decide she likes it I'd flog it and put the money in her bank account. If it was something that cost £5 people wouldn't think anything of you doing that, really the value shouldn't change that.

ohnoshedittant · 20/11/2011 22:37

I think it's fine to sell it.

If the other mum has regifted it without checking how much it cost, then that's her loss really. She can't really come back to you 6 months later and say 'oh i didn't know it was worth so much can I have it back please?'.

If it's a child's bracelet and your DD is 7, there's not really much point keeping it unless you think she'll come to appreciate it in the next couple of years. By the time she's 11/12/13 she probably won't want a child's bracelet.

Sell, put the money in her account and let her use it for something she actually wants/needs.

MrsvWoolf · 20/11/2011 22:39

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seeker · 20/11/2011 22:39

"If the other mum has regifted it without checking how much it cost, then that's her loss really"

Hey, nice attitude!

ChaosTrulyReigns · 20/11/2011 22:40
SuzysZoo · 20/11/2011 22:42

What sort of child's bracelet costs £100!?