I am 36+4 weeks pregnant with our first child, due in the last week of this month. My DP is apparently very excited to be a father and in many ways is very supportive. However, throughout my pregnancy we have had a number of arguments about him going out in the day during the week (he finishes work at midday) and coming home pissed and reeking of booze. He works in media and so has a very sociable job - its not unusual for him to attend free drinks things etc. This isn't the only thing he does with his afternoons - he goes to the gym, cinema etc but occurs at least once a week. Obviously my social life is non existent at the moment with drinking off the agenda (and being knackered, bloated etc etc)
I've previously spoken to him that as we get closer to the due date that I need him to wind it down and stop drinking so much - I don't mind him going to the odd thing but it is the fact that he will drink heavily and come home completely ratarsed to the point where he stumbles around and can't string a sentence together. He has been out for a freebie lunch today which was supposed to last 2 hours - but despite me asking him to not drink too much at the lunch has then gone on to drink loads on the other side of the city, and a two hour lunch has turned into an 8 hour session.
This isn't about him having a drink problem - it isn't that - it is about him prioritising his social life over his responsibility to me at this stage in my pregnancy. I need to know that if I go into labour he is with me, able to support me, get me to the hospital etc without me having to have a back up plan. I'm furious with him tonight - I've explained why I am so angry and he has told me that he is 'getting it out of his system' before the baby arrives and that I am over reacting.. well, am I?
Please be gentle - I'm very hormonal at the moment but do need some perspective if IABU..
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TheFantasticFixit · 02/11/2011 22:11
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