aggghhhh - want to vent, but will try to keep it brief.
My Mum has a hard time - she's a carer for my Dad who's paralysed although they get 5 visits a day from SS and she still works.
As a result I always travel there to see them, about once a week, takes 1 hr 15 driving. I always take my two DDs aged 15mths and 4yrs.
It's been planned for ages that this week I'm going tomorrow and staying the night. I don't actually like doing this much - the DDs never sleep well there, it's totally exhausting. I'm totally snowed under with work stuff I should be doing at home.
But still, my Mum and Dad have hard lives etc I'm happy to do it to see them and for them to see the kids.
Tonight my Mum rings to say that she's going out to see friends tomorrow night but that 'that's fine isn't it?'
I dutifully reply 'yes of course!'
But actually I'm really pissed off. If she made the effort to travel 70miles to see me I would never arrange to meet friends - I mean isn't it just really rude? And odd???
She sees these friends every week - I often forgo seeing friends of mine to arrange visits to hers. I wish I could tell her how I feel but our relationship seems to work on the basis that everything is so much harder for her (and in truth, it probably is) that I cannot make any demands at all or voice anything other than support. If I do otherwise the hurt vibes I get are unbearable.
I'm really fucking annoyed. AIBU??
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Twister1 · 24/07/2011 19:57
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