Background info: DP and I have been together for years and are currently expecting our first little one. I am from abroad originally (from a country far, far away) but have lived in the UK for quite a few years now and met DP over here. My family all live in my home country. DP, meanwhile, is a Londoner and all of his family are in London. We own a house here, are happily settled here, and plan on staying here for the near future.
DP recently proposed :)
I want to get married in my home country. Even though we are happily settled here, I do get homesick at times and miss my family. They miss seeing us on a day-to-day basis, and will miss out on spending time with our new baby. So I feel it would be nice for us to at least allow them the pleasure of hosting our wedding.
DP is happy with the idea of getting married in my country but we have the issue of ensuring his family can all get to the wedding. There are people in his immediate family who would struggle to afford the flights (my family can supply enough accommodation for when they arrive). I feel a bit guilty insisting the wedding is in my home country knowing it will be hard for people to come. I would also hate for key people not to be able to be there (for DP's sake) and would consider helping people out financially to get there where we can but worry we can't afford it. We plan on giving people a couple of years notice so they can have the option of saving up if they are able to but I'm not sure this would be enough.
We could get married somewhere in between the two countries but we would still have the issue of getting all of DP's family there. As mentioned, I don't feel it is fair to my family for us to get married in the UK, either. As for running off and eloping...we have considered that (and it would be the easiest option!!!) but really want to celebrate our special day with family. I feel I am walking into a potential nightmare here and don't know how to keep everyone happy (and suspect it is impossible to keep everyone happy!).
Any thoughts / advice??
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ButterflySally · 13/07/2011 12:23
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