Right, I am preparing to be flamed.....
Three and a bit years ago, was introduced to someone who was pregnant at same time as me, we met through DP's work. As coincidence would have it we are both pregnant again.
We got relatively friendly, but not really close friends I would say. Just met up now and again with respective children. I also helped her out with a financial matter that she and her DH had, because I had a bit of experience with that kind of thing.
I had to start limiting the contact because her DS was becoming so aggressive towards my DS, i am not talking the occasional shove or slap either, once she came over and in an hour there were three serious incidents including my son being jumped on and punched repeatedly before I ran over and intervened. My issue with it apart from the obvious was that she wasn't really disciplining him properly for it, hence it continued. My DP saw it for himself on one occasion, he is a laid back soul but even he said he was unhappy with our sons playing again.
Shortly before all this happened my DP was approached by another person he worked with who I don't know as well who said that this person was hounding her to meet up all the time and she felt that this person was becoming too much, bordering on being a stalker. I had started to feel like this too.
She was being very needy, if I didn't reply to a text within a couple of hours she would ring me. Then on one occasion I said I had bad pregnancy hormones (true) was feeling antisocial (true) and would text her when I felt ready to meet up. Less than a week later she text me again and basically said her DS really wanted to meet up with my DS and when could we meet up again? I felt annoyed she was bringing the kids into it and wondered if it was designed to make me feel guilty (I did).
There is more to this than just that but this is a shortened version if you haven't fallen asleep already.
So I eventually broke off all contact and stopped answering messages. She sent me lots of messages before realising and then sent me one last arsey message. Can't say I blame her. I feel so cowardly but I couldn't be straight with her. Firstly because I genuinely feel it would add fuel to the fire, and possibly not stop the texts, but secondly because she is not the most discreet of individuals and was sure that had I been honest, she would have told everybody at work (we both work for large organisations that work together at times).
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Mare11bp · 09/07/2011 23:28
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