Some of you may remember my AIBU about my DSD who at 12 had met an 18 year old boy on FB. I got some awesome advice and it resulted in me telling her Dad (without DSD’s knowledge) and confronting her about it. She blocked him and set her privacy settings properly and I reported him to CEOPS. <br><br>Here is a link to the original thread. If you read just the first post, and maybe my update near the end, it will explain the background regarding her mum. <br><br><a target="_blank" href="/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1201549-To-not-want-my-12-year-old-Step-Daughter-with-an-18-year-old-man-LONG" rel="nofollow">here</a><br><br>Anyway, I found out DSD’s password and have been logging in sporadically to check up on her. Today I logged in and saw that she has been talking to a new guy, 17 years old, lives in the UK this time. They’ve been talking fairly graphically and it seeming shockingly that she is being incredibly flirty and instigating most of it which has honestly made me feel sick. <br><br>She says to him she has told her mum, like she did last time and that she has warned her that “all older boys do is sit around wanking over girls and looking for a quick fuck” but hasn’t actually stopped it. I don’t know if that <i>is</i> what her mum said, but it rings true with what happened last time and other things she has said. She won’t tell me about this new guy because last time I stopped her and although her mum has warned her off, she never says “no” so it’s ok. <br><br>I’m devastated that her innocence is being lost and her mother isn’t doing anything about it. I know the advice on here will be to tell her dad but I kind of feel like – why is it me snooping and checking up on DSD? I feel kind of weird and interfering, I’m not her parent! But I spend as much time with her as her mum does and have done for 3 years so why don’t I get a say.<br><br>I want to talk to her mum about it because I want to believe we have the same interests at heart but she’s so unwilling to be anything other than her DD’s best friend that she daren’t enforce any rules on her. Also, in the past she has become annoyed with DSD and slapped her. I don’t want to instigate that happening again. The other problem is that some of these exchanges between DSD and the boy online are during times when she is with her mum but her mum has gone out late at night and left her on her own. I think my bringing up the problem will be taken as a criticism on that. <br><br>I’m really, seriously concerned. I really appreciate any advice.