To be a bit pissed off at my friend?

[Havecrowsfeetneedbotox]

DH is away for the weekend on business leaving me home alone with DS 5 months. He left yesterday and will be back tomorrow night.
My friend very kindly offered to come over today to help out with DS and keep me company. I never asked her, she offered.
We had not discussed a time but I assumed in the morning as the purpose was to help out with DS.
It's now 3.15pm and she keeps texting saying I've got a few bits I need to get done but will be there very soon.
She isn't.
DS goes to bed at 6pm.
What was the point in offering?
I probably shouldn't be annoyed but feel like I've sat around all day waiting for her to turn up and am getting increasingly more irritated!
AIBU?

[JaneFonda]

Maybe she assumed the purpose was (mainly) just to keep you company?

YABU - enjoy the time when she does get here.

Even if it's after DS's bedtime, a bit of adult company wouldn't go amiss, surely!

[GwendolineMaryLacey]

YANBU. I hate it when people don't stick to arrangements. Different if something had come up but presumably she'd have let you know if that was the case. Good job you didn't want to go out or anything!

[Havecrowsfeetneedbotox]

I agree with you both. I will be pleased for a bit of adult company but I'm still getting irritated sitting and waiting!!!

[AgentZigzag]

Because you didn't agree on a time YABU, sounds like she had a specific time she was coming over and had other things to do before.

I hate waiting for people to come round though, you get everthing sorted and it's hard to get on with jobs and stuff because you know they'll turn up the minute you get started.

So you're not being unreasonable as well



Awww 5 months old

[MorticiaAddams]

YABU because you are pissed off based on assumptions made by yourself not fixed arrangements between you and your friend.

Obviously you've figured this out now but you should have arranged a time.

I too would have thought it was more for company as I'm sure you can cope with a 5month old on your own for one day.

[jeckadeck]

Does friend have kids? it sounds like she doesn't. If she doesn't she probably doesn't realize that you have your routines and that your baby goes to bed early etc. I don't think that sort of thing sinks in for childless people. I would be hacked off too, but you can't really not arrange a time and then get pissed off if someone takes the piss a bit.

[HRHPrincessZombiePlan]

Don't think you're bu - I agree that you hadn't fixed a time, but if someone says they're going to help with young dc then its kind of common sense to assume that that means a daytime visit, isn't it? So it would be u to expect her to be there at the crack of dawn, but not u to assume that she would have arrived before early evening.