To not want to be put in that position

[B2Bananamum]

Okay so long story. My DH and I have a friends who were married. We have known them for about 8 years separately and together. We were very close, lived next door and spent a lot of time together.
About 7 months ago these friends spilt up. For various reasons one of the main ones that she had a drunken one-nights-stand a year before and he tried but couldn't forgive. Understandably!

This was about the same time that my SISTER had moved to my local town and had a friend who worked with him. They ended up getting together after 1 week of him leaving wife. She wasn't aware that i knew either of them.

They are still together. I was angry at first but all i can see is that they are both adults and its not up to me to judge. The marriage was over although it doesn't make it right. He is a good guy who will care for her and my nieces.
I am still friends with the Ex-wife as we didn't see how it should effect our friendship. I have told both parties that i don't want to know anything about anything iykwim? They spend most of the time at each others throats over divorce etc.
They all live in the same (small) town and work closely.
Me and my DH have since moved (thank god!) but when i do go to visit sister and nieces i always seem to run into her. She makes a point of stopping and chatting normally about the divorce, slagging them off etc etc, completely ignoring that my sister is there and its V awkward!
I can see that she only trying to be strong and make a point but just don't want to be put in that situation as i'm sure they don't.....AIBU?
What would you do?

My friend is absolutely gutted and i want to be there for her, but without upsetting anyone or taking sides!

I'm new to this and don't know all the codes sorry!

[bethelbeth]

Eurgh it's a horrible situation to be in but unfortunately I think you just need to sit and wait it out.

If you say anything to your friend about not acknowledging your sister I think it would be quite easy for her to jump the gun and assume you're on 'their side'.

I would just not say anything but offer support to both parties.