To cut a long story short - I am now living with DP and DSS. DSS's mother chose to leave him and DP when DSS was nearly 5. She said a few things along the lines of 'I wish i'd never had him' and I 'need more me time'.
She went off with a new guy and didn't see DSS for a few weeks. I have been with DP for 18 months and met DSS a year ago. We've been all living together for 3 months. DSS's mother (lets call her W) has DSS for one night every fortnight and a week at a time in school holidays. DSS is coming up for 7. He is a lovely child, easy, sweet and fun to be around and very easy to love. I can't say I like or admire anything about his mother (in that she selfishly abandoned her only child) but he never hears anything negative from myself and DP about her. At a push we just say 'thats nice' at any mention. He comes back from weekends, totally knackered, staying up till 11.30 - he is 6! Also is generally full of BS and takes a day or two to get back to his lovely self.
I have never met W - she has never asked to meet me, AIBU to think this is totally weird as I feed, wash, clothe and cuddle her son every night but she has no interest in checking me out. When she collects/drops off DSS (we do one trip each per visit) DP meets her but soon there will be a weekend when he is abroad and I will be the one there with DSS. Do you think I should initiate a meeting - even a chance one before this. I generally feel quite uncomfortable about meeting her but realise it will happen one day. Any suggestions? Please be kind as I am a new Mumsnetter and also a new 'mum'
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bettyj · 18/02/2011 10:15
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