So my closest school friend is due in a week, and her DP is a marine about to be deployed to Afghanistan, in four weeks. Not an ideal situation I'm sure most ppl can agree. But they are very much in love, happy and excited about their imminent LO's arrival and LO was planned.
Our close mutual friend has been to see her today and apparently informed her that 'we all' are worried that she won't cope, has no idea what she's letting herself in for, and that she's going to have a horrible time when her DP goes. It seems to have come across to my friend that she was reckless/careless to get pregnant - which is an awful thing to imply to someone, esp as LO was planned. Even if s/he wasn't I'd have poked anyone in the eye who implied my DS was a mistake!
I'm p**d off for two reasons: 1st, why on earth would you SAY that even if you thought it?? What a horrible downer to put on things a week before her due date!! I've have been livid if someone had told me they didn't expect me to cope 1 week before I popped. 2nd, she has included me and another friend in this - implying we all think the same thing and have been tutting behind her back, which we haven't. Well, which I haven't. I've wondered out loud what I can do to support her, as I know doing it alone will be hard work, but that's because I care. I am the only one from our circle of friends with a baby already btw.
She sent me a text today to say she's upset by the comments, and doesn't want to talk about it. I've tried to let her know that yes, we want to support her, and yes, it may be tough but all new parents find it tough - and she will do a wonderful job. Needless to say, foot in mouth friend is not a parent yet, and prob has no idea how crap her timing is. But still. Gah. I am so cross! Feel dreadful that she thinks all her friends have been so negative. She doesn't want to talk to me :( so I'm not pushing it. WWYD?
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AIBU to feel cross with my friend for upsetting my best friend (one week from her due date)?
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ninaandbean · 11/02/2011 23:52
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