When I was 7 months pregnant my friend got engaged and asked me to be her bridesmaid...
I am not the smallest person in the world anyway, but add to that a pretty indulgent pregnancy and now I'm pretty huge so I sent her a rather long email saying that I am hugely flattered you asked me, but I am going to have a baby, I'm worried I won't lose enough weight to feel comfortable in a dress and don't want to ruin all your pictures etc so could I please not be a bridesmaid...
She replied saying not to be silly and I didn't need to lose any weight and actually it was a really sweet message so I agreed.
Then I had my DS by C Section, so no working out etc for 6 weeks, though actually was more like 9/10 weeks. I'm doing it now and dieting but it's hard to fit in with my new baby and sometimes when I get an hour all I want to do is look at him / clean my house / talk to DH... Not go for a run or to the gym.
The other bridesmaids are tiny... Size 6 tiny, and they
want to go dress shopping and tbh I'm terrified of
walking around with them, feeling uncomfortable and worried that there literally won't be anything to fit me.
No one else has children, and for the hen 'night' they want to go to a villa for 2 weeks... I explained that I
couldn't leave my DS for that long and actually just don't want to! My DH couldn't manage on his own with
looking after the baby and with work, only has about 4 days holiday so couldn't take all the time off.
Other than that there's a hen night in London that they are planning for the one day I can't do as I'm going to a wedding. (which they knew but chose the date anyway) I explained that even if I don't go, it's a family
wedding so I would have no one to have DS anyway. (my parents and sister are all going) They suggested I just find a for hire babysitter which I'm just not
prepared to do.
I think they're being totally unreasonable in expecting me to be able to do all this hen stuff, (whatever happened to just one night out??) and go be honest, I think I should just ask again not to be a bridesmaid but I don't want to hurt her.
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finnsmummy80 · 07/02/2011 10:56
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