AIBU?
DSC's came after Xmas (both between 3 and 7), OH had bought them a massive pile of pressies which he struggled to afford tbh.
Their mum who is on benefits and often taps OH up for early maintenance or help with financial things (on top of maintenance and he is often gullible enough to give in) also spent about £300 on each child (she told OH this and asked him for half but he told her he would make his own arrangements).
I bought each DC a small gift for xmas from me and my DC's so they had a pile each under the tree when they came. They both ripped through the entire pile without even stopping to say thank you for anything or pausing to look to see what they had got and by the end of their stay a lot of what they had was broken or had been stwen over the house with bits missing (I am still finding them - but wonder if I should bother to post them back as they didn't seem to notice or be bothered ).
This sounds a bit like I don't care for my DSC's I do very much and I have a lovely relationship with them.
It was one of their birthdays recently so I sent a gift after checking out with OH whether it was ok/they had one. He said no thats great they'll love it. Have good relationship with OH's ex and was going to check it out with her but didn't in the end.
Enquired as to whether it had arrived today to OH to which he told me yeah it had and he'd forgotten that his ex had already got them one for xmas, but shes not going to bother to exchange it .
AIBU to feel that she should at least texted me to tell me it had arrived and perhaps thanked me (I didn't know and had checked they didn't already have one!!) and to just feel that DSC's are learning to be really ungrateful, materialistic and flippant with money and I may have just as well not wasted my time and given the money to a childrens charity who may have actually needed and appreciated it?
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to wish I had given the money to charity rather than buying a gift?
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twinkletweeter · 18/01/2011 19:50
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