background, my mum has never really got on with my aunt her sil. they are pleasent enough but for years my mum has said things about her that i think are unfair. she is very close to her sister and was always very generous with her, but moaned about the amount of money my dad spent on his sister when it was his money. my aunt never married has no children and always spent xmas with us etc. and we are very very close to her.
anyway its her 70th birthday on friday and we have organised a surprise party for her in my dads snooker club, its not the ritz but we are doing our best, and my aunt loves a party. (still drinks like she's 18 when she gets out ). im having a bit of diffs with the student finance people and phoned my mum for a moan, i said to her about the party this week and money and she went off on one saying how its ridiculous that we are having a party for her and how its incredibly selfish of my aunt. Like my aunt intentionally was born just after xmas. Apparently my aunt should have said at christmas that she didn't want a party or presents, umm its a surprise party she doesn't know about it hence the "surprise" part. My aunt is not expecting a party. She would be happy with just going to the pub, but she is 70 and is suffering from skin cancer and has been in and out of hospital the past few years so we wanted to give her a good night.
AIBU or is my mum? Yes i know that times are tough and it probably isn't the best timing for us to spend a lot of money, but putting the blame on my aunt for US giving her a SURPRISE party? God forbid we all give an old woman a nice time for her 70th birthday?
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maighdlin · 04/01/2011 16:53
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