to want the neighbours to be quieter?

[Pandahead]

We live in a block of flats we were really excited to move in to 6 months ago. We soon noticed we could hear the people upstairs moving their chairs on the floor after dinner etc., but got used to it, no problem.

Those neighbours moved out recently and I cannot believe how noisy the new ones are.

They seem to have a little one who is constantly running around the flat (apparently wearing concrete blocks on their feet) and is regularly running around until 10 at night. Constantly throughout the evening it sounds like heavy items are being dropped on the floor and things bounced on the floor. I am tearing my hair out.

I don't want to stop a little one playing, but on the other hand, I don't think it's so much to expect they would be in bed before 8pm at the latest!

I'm also very apprehensive about going up to say anything so would appreciate any advice on how best to approach this one, if at all.

[odisco]

Bedtime depends on the age of the little one! Maybe they have triplets?

On this information I think you are being unreasonable. Do they even know you think this? Don't wait till you get really frustrated before you say anything but hard to know what they are going to be able to do about it.

Think about insulating the ceiling.

[Nancy66]

There's nowt you can do - there's always noise if you have people above you.

[anonymosity]

There may be a clause somewhere (lease or other docs) that states upper floors must be carpeted, to keep noise down. Its fairly common. Is there some way you could check?

[DooinMeCleanin]

My toddler often runs around dropping heavy objects, screaming, singing, dancing and generally making a lot of noise until 11pm, if you complained to me about I would liable to either slap you [lack of sleep makes me angry amoticon] or invite you in to try and convince her to sleep, because god knows everyone has tried and failed.

Whcih is why I do not complain, but quietly sympathise, when next doors baby won't sleep (sounds like colic) between 2 and 5 am.

[TattyDevine]

YANBU to want them to be quieter.

I dont know what to say except that I bet they wish they had quieter evenings too!

And if they do manage to get that child to bed by 8pm, the mornings may well be louder!

YANBU in essence though.

[expatinscotland]

After having so many neighbours who blasted loud music and bass all night, peddled drugs, argued loudly all night, fights, etc. I do not even register the neighbours' little boy who is often up till 11 throwing tantrums, all their slamming doors, etc.

Better the devil you know, tbh.

[scurryfunge]

Poor expat and your neighbours . Are you any closer to your rural dream with no neighbours yet?

[expatinscotland]

we are rural, just with neighbours. that will always be the case. we can't afford otherwise. c'est la vie.

[muggglewump]

Little one?
I'm assuming you mean a child, little one is very twee.
Pet hate of mine.

You can't dictate his bedtime, and YABU to say you'd expect him in bed at 8pm.
DD has never been in bed that early, in fact I don't get this making kids go to bed at X time.
Surely they go to bed to get the amount of sleep they need?
Expecting no running around and keeping the noise down after 8ish is NBU though.

Have a polite chat with them.

[scurryfunge]

Expat, my dream is isolation (close by to modern conveniences of course )

[proudfoot]

YANBU don't really have any helpful suggestions but I sympathise as I live next door to a neighbour from hell who comes home and crashes and bangs, turns on music in the middle of the night... and the worst... tries to sing opera. I can put up with some of it but I HATE the singing I have complained to him multiple times and he just takes the P.

I guess try to bring up as amicably as possible with the offending neighbours and see how they react... Good luck

[sunnydelight]

YANBU, but there are plenty of people out there who are happy to have their kids run around until all hours without any consideration for their neighbours so you're on a loser I'm afraid. I don't get the "what can you do" mentality personally, but there are lots of people who clearly don't give a toss about the impact of their/their kids' behaviour on others (they have rights, you know!). You could try having a word along the lines of "you probably aren't aware how much noise travels in this block" but if you don't get a positive response could you put in some insulation?

[Pandahead]

Thanks for all the thoughts.

I don't want to get into a discussion about bedtimes... I was more thinking that later in the evening I assume people would keep the noise down(in the week that is).

But regardless of whether the child is in bed or not, it still annoys me that it apparently hasn't crossed their minds that there are people living below. If the comments on here have shown one thing it's that everyone's aware that noise travels in flats!

Anyway, I can't moan too much until I've gone and spoken to them. Given that we never heard this sort of noise from the last family up there, I think it's worth a try.