To be upset

[TheMeow]

I was very ill over the weekend, vomited every half an hour for 12 hours on Friday then needed 2 days to recover and actually face the thought of eating again. Seems to have been either a stomach bug or food poisoning.

I have a 3 month old ds and dh is on holiday at the moment so the childcare rested on him.

He looked after ds on Friday through to Saturday night.

Sunday morning I took ds because dh was "exhausted" until my mum came mid morning to take over. I went back to bed at this point. My mum had to leave at 3 which is when dh finally decided to get out of bed.

MIL turned up with BIL at about 6pm to look after ds, MIL left at 8, BIL stayed the night.

I spent the whole day in bed and woke up at 8am Monday by BIL asking dh if he could give him a lift home. I asked why hadn't ds woken me in the middle of the night as he doesn't sleep through and was told that BIL had been up all night with him whereas DH had gone to bed as normal.

I'm a bit at this because I look after ds while dh works 6 days a week, do all the night feeds and my supposed alternate Sunday morning lie in hardly ever happens because dh won't get out of bed for ds so I have to go much longer than 1 weekend without sleep.

My mum is convinced I am pregnant again (I'm not) and was discussing this with MIL by text yesterday when MIL said "Well if she is pregnant then she's milking it".

This has really upset me and dh doesn't understand why. I suffered from bad morning sickness with ds and had to take a month of work in the first trimester because of it but there was no word of me "milking it" then.

Is it simply because her precious darling boy had to actually wake up in the middle of the night for the first time in 3 months and couldn't hack it so much that after only 2 nights enlisted help then left said help to it? Or is it because she is under the impression that I should just grin and bear it if I am ill? As far as I am concerned, I am not a single mother so dh will share the parental responsibility, especially if I am ill.

AIBU and have I over reacted?

[diddl]

So your husband is on holiday but couldn´t look after the children whilst you were ill?

I´d save being upset for him tbh.

[darleneconnor]

and you married this man why?

[diddl]

And for MIL to think that, mustn´t her son have been whinging about what he was having to do?

[ConnorTraceptive]

Your husband is a tad pathetic but I can see why if both his mum and brother rush to his aid after a couple of days of child care

[Hulababy]

YANBU to be very cross with your DH. It is his child. he should look after him.

[HowAnnoying]

You should of married your BIL.

[TheMeow]

When I married him he wasn't nearly half as bad in fact I'd have said I was the lazier of the 2 of us!

Unfortunately BIL is only 15...which is another reason I'm annoyed actually - I know dh didn't force bil to do this as bil is always really keen to do anything with his nephew but I'm really annoyed dh let him stay up all night on Sunday with ds when he knew he had school the next day.

Oh and according to DH even when he's at work "You don't have to do everything on your own" as in he is the one who mainly makes dinner of an evening...

If I killed him would it be classed as a crime of passion? Would I go to prison for a very long time do you think?

[TheSkiingGardener]

Not if I were on the jury. What a selfish moany arsewipe. Kick him and then tell him why.

[phipps]

Bloody hell. Your H leaves a teenager to get up all night with a baby because he can't be arsed?

[Teaandcakeplease]

YA definitely NBU

Selfish comes to mind. Hope you're feeling ok now.

[fedupofnamechanging]

Totally unacceptable behaviour by your DH. I'd be really embarrassed to have left a 15 year old to stay up all night with my child. Your DH should be ashamed of himself.

Am unimpressed with your MIL too. I'd let them have it with both barrels.

[create]

You are right to be annoyed with your DH, but wasn't MIL just saying she can't be pregnant, she's much too ill for that.

Text conversations are dangerous-they always go wrong

[SkyBluePearl]

Lazy and selfish DH - I think he owes BIL big time.

[oncemoreintothebreach]

oh my word!!

Your DH is horrendous.

And just to warn you, my 'D'H was like this in the beginning and is not much better now 15months on. Nip it in the bud. I was bedridden a few weeks ago and DS goes nuts if he's in the house too long but still DH didn't take him out because "DS would miss me".

He's never taken him on his own for more than 2 hours.

Nip. Bud.

Good luck.

[LittleMissHissyFit]

bud. nip.

Foot. Down.

TODAY.

[TheMeow]

I'll give it my best shot lol it's stupid because he's fine with housework, fine with the more fun parts of looking after a baby but absolutely rubbish at the not so fun parts.

I hadn't thought of it that way create but I suppose it could be... I just saw it as MIL being a cow