I left my DS's father in 2002, when DS was 3 months old, and had to rely on Benefits so the CSA automatically contacted my ex. It was an abusive relationship (he was a violent alcoholic) so I hadn't really been all that keen to take anything from him that would make me feel obliged to him. The CSA in their wisdom decreed that I was entitled to £2.50 a week (the ex fiddled his books), which I was so insulted by that I actually sent it back - and he cashed the cheques! Obviously I saw sense and stopped sending the CSA payments back after a few months.
Anyway, I am now geting to a point when I feel that he should actually be giving me something more in keeping with his lifestyle - not least because he is living in the house that I worked my fingers to the bone on and helped fund the build of (it's now worth about £750k) and I am struggling to make ends meet in a rented house (can't get a mortgage because I was left with a crippling loan after the house build that has CCJ's on it).
He has made no effort to contact his son, but I know that DS will want to meet him in the not too distant future as I have always been very careful not to say anything bad about my ex in front of DS (this will be an entirely different "what the hell do I do" thread I'm sure!!).
Do I hound him for more reasonable payments or just cut my losses and count myself lucky that I got out alive with my amazing DS?
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Asteria · 04/11/2010 14:06
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