in commandeering all DD(9)'s clothes?

[IvaNighSpare]

DD(9) is going through that delightful phase of having issues with her image which manifests itself in her choice of clothes.
Every day we go through the rigmarole of tears and tantrums over what she is going to wear. I wouldn't mind that if it didn't culminate daily in her dragging a whole selection of clean, ironed clothes out of the wardrobe and then abandoning them in a heap on her bedroom floor.
I've lost count of the number of times I've asked her to put her unwanted clothes back neatly, but I may as well be talking to the wardrobe itself.
Last night I snapped. I went into her room and removed every single item of clothing. All her outfits, bar school uniform and underwear are now commandeered by me, placed in a suitcase and rationed out at my disposal.
There was much wailing and gnashing of teeth but I feel I ran out of options as the lesson was not being learnt.
DH thinks I'm overeacting and being mean (he incidentally has not been involved in this issue prior to now).
So, AIBU and, if I am, WWYD?

[kreecherlivesupstairs]

NBU. i so wish that our 9.5 dd had a school uniform. She is a particularly thin girl who won't wear anything other than leggings and a top of some description. Unfortunately she is loathe to try clothing on, and as a consequence we have about 6 tunics/tops that are uncomfortable or she dislikes and refuses to wear. Things reached a head recently when she really got on my tits pushed me too far and I took her clothe away. She now chooses one day and I choose for the next day.
I would add, if your DH thinks you are over reacting, put him in charge of clothing your DD. I suspect he may change his mind.

[TattyDevine]

No, that's not on. If she can't put the clothes back (which is why she doesn't mind dragging them all out!) then you have to do something, as she's walking all over you.

YANBU

[SuePurblybilt]

I don't think yabu to make a stand about the clothes on the floor.

But, I can remember the feeling of utter despair at the sheer wrongness of everything at that age: my clothes, the way I looked, everything. I never had any clothes, part of the reason was the full-on meltdown I would have in clothes shops in frustration at more wrongness.
It wasn't being spoiled or demanding labels, don't think that, it's hard to describe why it was so important at the time. I remember clearly the feelings of frustration and despair. Maybe talk to her about why this is such a big deal and (horrid phrase) cut her some slack too?

[thisisyesterday]

agree it can be a tough time at that age. but don't think yabu at all.

perhaps you could both go through her clothes and put some outfits together? things that you know look good together, then hang them up on hangers. that way she knows whatever she picks "goes" together and will look ok

[kreecherlivesupstairs]

I don't know about the OP, but we have tried thisisyesterday's suggestion. DD has numerous pairs of black and dark grey leggings. All her tops go with them and I can't discern any difference between pair one and pair two. She has favourite ones though and will go into a meltdown if they aren't clean. I suspect though that there is more to it than the leggings themselves. She is currently being looked at for ADD and has sensory issues with labels etc.