to have been very judgey twice in the space of a few hours?

[thequimreaper]

Bumped into a neighbour today who was telling me about how her LO has yet another serious chest infection while she was chugging away on a fag with the smoke drifting all over the pushchair which is pretty much a constant sight. I used to smoke myself and it was hard giving up but was still a bit .
Then later I went to our local toddler group and a childminder, who goes there a lot, was there with her 3 mindees - a boy about 2 1/2 and 2 twin girls about 2 years old. The boy was running around and the two girls were strapped in the pushchair and one of them was screaming. Fair enough they're having a tantrum I thought but it went on and on and on the most piercing screams. I overheard someone ask the childminder what was wrong with the child and if they were ill and the CM replied "no they're always like that when they don't get their own way!". The CM left the two girls - one of whom was screaming - in the pushchair for - and I do not joke - an hour! The boy was running around playing happily. I left feeling relieved that I am fortunate enough to be a SAHM but then I thought this is maybe how the parents have instructed the CM to deal with the childs behaviour? Would a CM agree to this? I was also quite shocked that as it was a Surestart group none of the parent supporters had intervened. Also the other twin who was not screaming was left strapped in the pushchair for the whole hour! AIBU to think this is out of order?

[mamadiva]

YANBU-

We have a woman at nursery who smokes like a chimney and her baby was born with heart murmer and possible asthma (not relating it but...) and she would just stand smoking away whilst he was coughing and spluttering, although he now 18m and fine but still fag puffing goes on :(

Like you I was a smoker so not judgey on that but please do it away from your child especially a newborn with breathing problems!

As for the CM well that is completely out of order I would not be happy if it was my child! Fair enough if she'd had a tantrum but is it really any wonder when she was strapped to a pushchair watching another child play??

So basically no I would judge too.

[theywillgrowup]

YANBU

[Diziet]

No YANBU at all. I would probably have had particularly big judgey pants on about those particular issues.
My DS2has a Heart arrythmia (could someone tell me if I spelt that right, please!) and I'm asthmatic, so I do try and steer discreetly away from smoking people in public.