To be annoyed with hubby today?

[bethan37]

We are nearly ready to go on a family walk to a local house and gardens and now my hubby has just invited along the inlaws!

Am annoyed as i wanted it to be just the three of us ;(

[RedHeels]

You need to tell him that, as he won't know next time that he should consult you. You know, because he's 5 years old so it hasn't occurred to him before that it's courtesy to discuss things with the other partner before making a decision.

Hope your day out is still enjoyable though!

[BoneyBackJefferson]

but he is on a walk with his family

[Tootlesmummy]

Why did it just have to be the 3 of you?

[booooooooooyhoo]

sometimes it is nice jsut to have your own (teh one's you live with) family. especially if taht is what you expected to happen and now tehre are others tehre.

[TrillianSlasher]

Did he know that you wanted it to be just the 3 of you?

If not then YABU.

[kslatts]

I think YABU, why does it have to be just the 3 of you?

Did you tell him you didn't want anyone else to come along?

If we were planning a walk, I wouldn't feel the need to consult dh before inviting someone else along.

[bethan37]

No, we spend quite a bit of time with grandparents and he knew it was time for our time together. Just wanted a bit of an afternoon with my hubby and daughter.
Got upset as Im pregnant so prob just a bit emotional! Plus no one knows im pregnant so didnt want another afternoon of pretending and just wanted to have a relax.

Oh well, he knows for next time and it was ok... ;)

[GeekOfTheWeek]

yanbu

[TrillianSlasher]

It's not about whether you should or should not want grandparents on a family walk, as some people seem to be basing their judgement on.

It's about whether you are right to be annoyed with your husband for inviting them.

If he knew that you wanted to spend time alone together, then YANBU to be annoyed at him asking other people along.

[RandomMusings]

YABU for calling him hubby

[Mumcentreplus]

Random leave her alone!!!..DH is called Hubby on my phone

[TrillianSlasher]

I agree with Random

[NothereisnobodylurkingbehindU]

Why are the women posting over those tiny marital tiffs always pregnant? And why do they never mention said pregnancy till everyone has said ' Calm down, you are behaving like a loon'?

If I were to be pregnant again (which I won't be) I would be sure to preface every post with 'I'm pregnant so...' would save a lot of time I think Should we get that added to the site rules?

OP - alls well that ends well right?

[TrillianSlasher]

cat - that's my point - until the OP told us what she had said to her DH we couldn't answer. But it seemed like people were saying YABU (it's nice to have extended family on walks) or YANBU (it's important to have alone time), which is answering a completely different question - answering 'AIBU to want to go on a walk just us' rather than 'AIBU to be annoyed'.

[Suda]

YANBU - however well you get on with family and ILs and however good/important it is to spend time with extended family - I still think he should have mentioned it - maybe he got collared and didnt pro-actively invite them but got put in a spot and then knew how you'd react so didnt consult you.

I have a large extended family and so does DH (we both have previouses etc )and was thinking of starting a thread about this subject as I often feel swamped and our tiny portion of 'our time' regularly overtaken.

In fact we wake up on a weekend morning and the first time one of our phones rings (usually either our respective grown up children or elderly Dad or his Mum} with some 'life or death request' - eg. can we pay their papers/get them some milk when were out or can they call round borrow jump leads etc etc etc. We look at each other now on the first ring and say 'theyre circling - shall we go out for the day?'.

So I do know how you feel - and we are very family orientated people and devote lots of time to family - but its a collective thing sometimes - so no one set of in-laws or parent or other family members are to blame.

We have to remind ourselves that the fourth weekend 'hotline' caller is not aware theyre the fourth meithering person to intrude on our time and its not m-i-ls fault for example that we may have just spent two hours on a mission for my Dad when she calls and says 'can you pay my papers later on' or whatever. But is still doesnt stop you thinking 'can I have a life ffs ?' !!