to want to give my cousin's friends a slap?

[gapbear]

It's usually funny when someone's left their FB logged on, and their friends write 'Johnny* has had diarrhoea all morning' or 'Johnny licks cheese'. But my cousin's friends (19 / 20ish) wrote 'Johnny thinks all rape victims are asking for it.'

Now, maybe I was being unreasonable commenting that perhaps Johnny might want to get himself some new friends, ones with brains (unsurprisingly, they took umbrage at this, the little cretins). But it worries me actually, that they felt this was a funny thing to write. I think they've crossed a line, big time.

But aibu in wanting to give them each a great big slap?

*not real name

[iliketosleep]

Giving them a slap would be to light IMO

[EricNorthmansMistress]

YANBU
I had stern words with DBro when one of his 'mates' kept tagging him in images with really offensive jokes in, one was a pic of a preteen girl with some joke about jailbait. Thankfully DBro has a brain and sorted his 'mate' out. Teenagers can be twats. They all talk about being 'fraped'. Twats.

[gapbear]

Twats indeed.


My lovely cousin has leapt to my defence in the last few minutes, in a 'stop bantering my cousin, you guys' way, but I'm really tempted to write 'Rape is not a joke, you twunts'. I will refrain, because I don't think the little eejits will understand...

[gapbear]

Good point altinkum - but 'all victims of frape' would have been a darn sight better than 'all victims of rape'.

I think they thought they were being clever.

[iliketosleep]

Yeah 'fraped' means facebook raped

[gapbear]

Yeah, I know about 'fraped' - cos I'm down wiv the kids, innit - but so do they. Trying to stay off my high horse on FB as they'll only see it as a source of amusement.

[iliketosleep]

Wicked m8 cos Iz woz worried you didnt no ya get me?

[gapbear]

Nah, cousin was alright - he was defending me, bless him. It was just his tosser friends.

It makes me want to go round all the universities and talk to the lads there about rape

[DialMforMother]

I wouldn't write 'all rape victims are not women' a because the vast majority are and b because that would imply that it's kind of ok if it just happens to women? That seems to be an odd statement.

This kind of thing is usually otherwise quite well brought up boys being thoughtless and unempathetic. It might work if you or your cousin points out that it's possible that someone who has been raped would see this comment and how would they feel?

[DialMforMother]

Or if you can get to them a big slap might work :)

[musicmadness]

I almost certain they meant fraped, not raped. I've seen tons of updates with "fraped again, watch out" or similar appear. They wouldn't mean anything bad by it (I hope!). It is i bad taste to actually say raped though because there meaning is unclear amd it is a horrible thing to say.