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AIBU?

to be upset that my boyfriend isn't invited?

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eirikthered · 27/07/2010 16:35

I've been with my boyfriend nearly two years. I have been invited to a dinner party organised by a girl who is rather more my friend than BF's, but who also knows BF very well. This girl, let's call her G, has a bit of a problem with couples. And she has specifically not invited BF. But she has invited all our mutual friends.

I'm hurt. I don't want to be one of those couples who can't do anything apart, but it seems rather unkind to exclude one half of a couple when both halves of the couple are part of a group of friends. AIBU?

NB despite the name, I'm female. So it's not that she's prejudiced against gay people or anything like that.

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morejuiceplease · 27/07/2010 16:36

Are the other guests couples?

And if not do they have dps and are the dps invited?

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sapphireblue · 27/07/2010 16:37

are all the other guests female?

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swallowedAfly · 27/07/2010 16:38

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eirikthered · 27/07/2010 16:39

No, it's a mixed bag - boys and girls. Other couples are invited.

Sorry, what does dps mean?

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ShatnersBassoon · 27/07/2010 16:40

I would only be irritated if there were other couples invited. If it was just a close friends thing, I wouldn't care.

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eirikthered · 27/07/2010 16:40

We were all friends then we got together.

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sapphireblue · 27/07/2010 16:42

I would be irritated if other couples were invited tbh. So she doesn't have a problem with couples in general, just you and your bf..........

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swallowedAfly · 27/07/2010 16:42

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fedupofnamechanging · 27/07/2010 16:44

I think she is being rude if she is inviting other couples and if your dp is part of this particular group of friends. I would feel disloyal to my dp if I went in these circumstances. Would be different if you were talking about a girls night out.

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foureleven · 27/07/2010 16:46

If all the guests are female then she obviously wants a 'girls night' eurghh hate that - but each to their own and it would be weird if your boyfriend went.

If there are other men there then I find it odd that you have been invited without your partner.

if my DP got invited to a mixed dinner event and I didnt i'd be suspicious of the motives of the host...

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eirikthered · 27/07/2010 16:47

Karmabeliever, my thoughts exactly. I wouldn't have a problem if it was a girls night, or if it was just a handful of people. It's a big dinner, about 20 people. My feeling is sure, it's her party, but it's rude to exclude someone who's clearly a permanent fixture in someone's life, even if you don't happen to like them hugely. My sister has a friend who married a man nobody can stand, but she still invites him.

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swanandduck · 27/07/2010 16:51

Sounds strange. Are you going to go?

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eirikthered · 27/07/2010 16:53

I was wondering whether to ask her if BF is invited in case she just forgot to say specifically. If he's not invited then I'm going to have to say no. I would feel disloyal, and frankly too p*ed off to enjoy myself.

That will cause an almighty row, but so be it.