I am getting to the end of my tether... please tell me if you think this is reasonable behaviour!!
Our DD is now 10 months. I am still BF and dream feeding. She won't have a bottle, but will take some milk from a cup which kind of limits my options. I am still on maternity leave, but only for another 6 weeks when I will return to full time employment. DH works full time.
A normal day...
If I am lucky, then he gets up with DD in the morning to give her breakfast which gives me time for a shower. He then goes to work and I give DD milk. More often than not, however, he stays in bed until the last possible moment before he showers and goes straight out to work. This essentially means I can't get myself ready until DD has her morning nap. Should I make him get up with her?
On an evening, he comes home after she has had her tea. He gets to play for about 1/2 hour before I give her milk. Bath and bed time follows. He often complains that his hands are sore (dry skin/mild eczema) and I end up doing both. My hands are often worse than his from constant hand washing!! This is only if he comes straight home, he goes shopping for non essentials once or twice a week (and by this I mean the Aldi specials that we really don't need or have any use for). If he goes out, then he misses play time, and she is ususally in a bath.
Weekends are a nightmare. He doesn't get up with her at all on a weekend, prefering to stay in bed. One morning we go swimming (after her nap), it is me that drives and swims... he reads newspaper and eats toast in the car. By this time it is lunch time (he is just having breakfast) and I have made DD some lunch so she can eat on the way home. He also thinks weekends are his 'me' time and time for DIY, so I don't get anytime without DD to do anything (like food shopping/cooking/baking/cleaning).
In 10 months, he has taken her out on his own once. He came back after an hour because she was crying (tired).
He is excellent at DIY and cleaning/tidying. He doesn't cook much, never prepares DD any food. Cerals are too complicated! Food shopping is beyond him. He adores DD.. not so much me at the moment because I have had enough!
Yesterday, after saying that I had had enough, he said that he would get up today to take her swimming. Of course, when the time came he was still in bed, so I went. I was planning on food shopping, cooking sunday lunch and baking a cake. None of these happened. I could have woken him up, but on other occassions when I have done this, I get accused of nagging - about his late nights (internet surfing until 12/1am) and drinking (2-6 cans a night).
Am I being unreasonable? Do you have any suggestions on what I can do/say? What is it going to be like when I go back to work and he has to get up with her (because I'll be at work)? Would love a bloke's opinion on this.
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tabbyH · 18/07/2010 21:38
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