To want to complain to school when DS hasn't even started yet?

[cosysocks]

DS starts reception in September and has three taster sessions.
Now this morning (good two weeks after last taster session) he says "mummy do you know what xxxx said to me when I was at school? 'She asked if I had a big willy"

Now am I being PFB? I just don't really want him to be in these sorts of conversations as the girl who asked him is 8/9 years old.
Should I go to school to tell them?
Oh and the girl is a friend of my niece in the same school so he will see her out of school also on odd occasions.
I just don't know am I over-reacting?

[wildmutt]

What was he doing mixing with 8/9 year olds at the taster session? I would have thought they would have been separate to the older ones. I think it is something that children do talk about and I'm sure you will hear far worse in years to come. I would be more concerned that reception aged children are with the older ones.

[julybutterfly]

The older children help the younger ones play at 'our' school - I don't see that as a problem. Teaches them responsibility.

Yes you're being PFB and you've got a lot worse to come

Some of the things DS used to come home with at the start of school really me. Now he's nearly finished reception and most conversations end with willies/bums/poo being mentioned, but it's the same with most of his class unfortunately!

I don't think school would do much about it just on the word of a 4 year old

[waitingforbedtime]

Sorry youre being PFB. What would you like the school to do? They cant censor what kids say.

[rewardgirl]

Unfortunately you're not going to be able to shield him from the "big bad world" - all you can do is answer his questions and give him support.

Complaining to your school before he's even started isn't going to get you off on the right foot - I can just imagine the "oh she's going to be one of THOSE parents" discussions. (My mum was a primary teacher for many years and I went to the school every day, so was privy to all the teacher convos in the staff room).

Better to try to have a word with child's mum - maybe in a jokey / non-threatening way. She'll hopefully be mortified that her daughter was asking such things.

[haribomum]

hmmmmmmm. this is a difficult one. agree it is very strange that the younger ones are able to mix with the older. for me though it is a bit worrying that she asked if he had a 'big' willy. i mean i know kids could say have you got a willy etc, just think this is a bit strange.

i think i would probably mention it tbh. but i wouldnt say i was making a complaint i would just mention it so that the school are aware.

[toccatanfudge]

The older children were probably brought in to "help" at the taster days - I know they do at our school.

But believe me - you've got a LOT worse to come - in the next 12 months your everything will be about bums, and poo, and willy's, and farts >>>>

[cosysocks]

Ok hold my hands up I'm being PFB!
The reception have their own playground but it's within the larger playground and i'm assuming they were talking over the fence.
I think part off me knows he will hear lots like this... however the other part just wants to protect my ds from things like that!!!

[julybutterfly]

LOL toccatanfudge My DS was 'delightful' too until he started school - he's still 'delightful' when he's there, it's when he's home that he turns into a gutter mouth!

School ruined him

[LIZS]

You have no proof she said it ! A lot of time has passed since then, his memories and imagination may well have become distorted by other conversations and activities. Had he said it at the time I'd be more wary but even then you can't be sure what or why she said. I doubt the school would do anything at this stage really and yes you'll have much more toilet talk to look forward to.

[toccatanfudge]

yes I have to say at school they're pretty good kids still (although DS1 now nearly 10 didn't have a great report) it's at home you hear it.

DS3 (who has only just turned 3) already thinks any mention of bum, poo, willy or fart is absolutely breathtakingly hilarious

[cosysocks]

Just to clarify it was more the 'big' willy that I bothered me... I'm ok with him talking about willys, poos etc. It's just feels that a four year old shouldn't be engaging in conversations about how big his willy is.

[Snobear4000]

I would not begin your relationship with the school as the "complaining mum". There's one in every class (well, these days there are often many more sadly) and you don't want the teachers groaning inwardly each time you approach them with your new moan about something that just does not matter.

DS should have replied, "Yes I do. How's your fanjo?"