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My FIL is an alcoholic. He also suffers with social anxiety and depression. On top of this he has type 2 diabetes.
MIL and FIL split up not long before I met DH (about. 6/7 years ago). MIL is amazingly kind and selfless, I'm amazed she put up with him for so long (gambled their money away, hardly worked, wrote off their car etc). Since they split up she still helps him A LOT , takes him cigarettes when he wants them, answers his stupid drunken phone calls, and ultimately still feels responsible for him.
DH never came out to tell me his Dad was an alcoholic - I figured it out myself and he was obviously ashamed and embarrassed about it. He has the same nature as him mum, so forgiving and helpful, even when his dad is being a complete PITA.
We now have a 2yo DD and FIL worships the ground she walks on. He comes to see her twice a week (when sober) and is so good to her. Unfortunately, we can have weeks where he doesn't see her at all when he's drinking.
It's such a horrible situation as actually FIL helps us out a lot and is good to us when he is sober - but turns into a monster with the alcohol. I feel sorry that DH and SIL had to experience this personality split when they were growing up, and I absolutely DO NOT want my DD to see this.
He's been offered and taken so much help, but the alcohol always wins. When he drinks he stops taking his medication for other conditions and his health takes a massive hit.
Is there anything I could/should do? I would love to help him but I worry he's past it.
When he's on a binge and being obnoxious/verbally abusive ( not to me thankfully -MIL usually gets it) - I just want to cut him out out lives. Bit then he sobers up and can go 2-4 weeks without a drop and is a lovely guy.
It's hard seeing someone destroy themselves like that.
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