rewards for not drinking that aren't ... drinking!

(11 Posts)
hangingoutattheendofmywick Thu 16-Jun-16 10:42:57

yes - me again. Trying to get as many ideas as possible and inspiration.

I was drinking one or two bottles of wine a day so I will be saving an awful lot of money by going sober. I would like to reward myself at the end of the month with something but that would traditionally be a huge alcoholic fuelled blow out and huge very unhealthy meal to go with it.

any other ideas?

and thanks for all your support over all my threads.

Branleuse Thu 16-Jun-16 10:43:53

minibreak?

ImperialBlether Thu 16-Jun-16 10:45:40

How fit are you? What about paying for a personal trainer a couple of times a week? It would help to reinforce your non-drinking.

magicaltoaster Thu 16-Jun-16 10:47:39

Hi OP, Im in a similar position, trying to stay dry. Did 3 days sober then massive binge yesterday, grappling with the desire to drink today.

I treat myself to a swim and use of the sauna/steam room. Its £6 to use the local hotel pool and I spend a couple of hours in there. Also, a nice bunch of flowers cheers me up (a luxury i would never buy but pales in comparrison to the amount i spend on alcohol when I'm bingeing). A book/dvd box set is always good too. Or a massage?

Am looking forward to hearing some more ideas.

hangingoutattheendofmywick Thu 16-Jun-16 10:54:34

thank you - a mini break is a dangerous (very dangerous thing) as all I would want to do is get pissed. I wouldn't know how to even have a mini break without drinking all the time. Or going to places where drink is the main focus. It's been such a huge part of my life for so long I don't know how to be without it.

Personal training sounds interesting - I also thought of a counselling session.

I need to research where I can go to use swimming pool / sauna as that sounds lovely.

Massage might be a good idea too!

ImperialBlether Thu 16-Jun-16 10:58:32

Can you drive? There's enough there for driving lessons if not.

Dozer Thu 16-Jun-16 11:05:07

Counselling for alcohol problems (but more than one session, and this or other help might be available on the NHS).

Something to make your home environment nice.

Exercise. Massage or treatment, eg manicure. Clothes.

Posh but balanced food, eg M&S fruit.

Branleuse Thu 16-Jun-16 11:05:28

Maybe youre just not ready yet?

The reward for not drinking will eventually be how much better you feel and how much more money you have. Its not about being miserable because youre desperate for a drink but are trying to be good.

hangingoutattheendofmywick Thu 16-Jun-16 11:05:37

no driving isnt for me i am afraid.

Dozer Thu 16-Jun-16 11:06:47

Savings account? Money in the bank - print out of your savings so far?

I recently set up a savings account for other reasons and am actually enjoying it!

overthehillandroundthemountain Thu 16-Jun-16 11:13:57

Hello! I have been dry for over a year - can barely believe it, as was a real habitual drinker before. I only meant to do one month!

Here is Overthehill's Overalcohol plan:

It helped to 'reward' myself in the evenings by keeping busy. Stay away from alco and turn towards all the other lovely things in life:

- spend wine money on a lovely book and celebrate being able to think straight as you read through

- spend wine money on a bath bomb (gave me particular delight to spend the exact same amount of ££, so 2 x bottles of wine = £15 on bath products)

- again, spend the exact same amount on beautiful flowers

- jump in the car and meet friends for a meal at a time when I would normally have been too tipsy to do it

- Ebaying a load of stuff (particularly for the 'gamble' nature) kept me occupied and fingers busy

- catch up with old friends. You will have more time, and of a great quality!
For me, it was liberating to drive again

- sometimes for the hell of it, I'd jump in the car and go to a better branch of Waitrose/Sains/whatever, to buy one tiny thing, like a new mag or book

- a new hobby or group. Previously when I couldn't drink, I joined a charity group and got involved with activities

It's the 'hit' factor of not drinking that you need to celebrate for the first few months. You do find that you need less of a reward as time goes by. Good luck! cake flowers

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