10 years ago i found a birth certificate in my mums stuff (she left my dad and was sorting out for her) that didnt make sense. The name was same as my uncles but dates different. I asked my mum about it and she got really upset and told me she had got pregnant and was made to put up for adoption.
A few years later when i got pregnant myself and had a baby i began to understand how painful it must have been for her, So contacted norcap and got my mum to try and find him as she never stopped thinking about him.
Unfortunately they couldnt find any searches for him in marriages, births, deaths and electoral rolls etc... so they sent the adoptive parents a letter asking them to pass on a letter stating that his bioligical mother wanted contact. We received a letter back saying they had passed the letter on but that was it we've never heard from him.
Its really upsetting and i dont know what if anything can be done.
The fact they cant find any searches leads me to think maybe he emigrated or is in the forces. But is there any way we could find him and do you think he adoptive oarents really did pass on the letter?

Maybe he hasn't married or had children and has moved around a lot? Lots of people avoid electoral roles I think. Have you tried facebook/friends reunited etc?

When you contacted his adoptive parents did they confirm the name he has now (as opposed to what was on his birth cert?).

Sorry I don't know what else you can do. After my Mum died, I found out that she had had 2 children adopted. I was initially very keen to trace them, but I found a few hurdles and am sorry to say, I didn't try harder. Strangely, about 10 years later my half brother made contact, although nothing from the older half sister. He is a nice guy who lives quite near us, and is now quite involved with our wider family.
Good luck - I can quite understand that it is difficult and hard for you. How my mum coped, I am not sure - but that is another story.

artichokes - no dont know what his name is now as would only have been allowed access to it if he wrote back to accept. Stuck. I know it probably means hes happy with his life and probably doesnt feel any need to meet her but i always wonder what he looks like, what hes doing etc. But i guess i can sorta understand, my eldest brother has a different dad and hes never wanted to meet him as my dad is the only one hes ever known and doesnt want to know where he came from biologically speaking. He says dad is the one who brought you up and cuddled you when poorly not the one who was there for 10mins during conception.

There's a register where people who have had children adopted (and adopted children) can indicate whether they want contact. Possibly run by Norcap?

Unfortunately he may just not be interested. My DH is adopted and has no interest in tracing his bio mum. He feels it would be a betrayal of his adoptive parents - even though they are both dead now.

thanks everyone suppose will just always have to wonder