My friend was adopted in 1970 as a baby and her adoptive parents have recently both died. She has looked into tracing her birth mother in the past but now both her parents are dead she is hoping to do it properly.
She told me this week that her case notes say her birth-mother was raped and she gave up my friend because of pressure from her dad.
However my friend also says that the social worker she has been in touch with has told her that she doesn't really believe the rape story. Now I don't know why the social worker thinks this and my mum who is a social worker says unless it's the same social worker who was involved in the adoption then it's not really an appropriate thing to suggest.
Anyway - I don't know the ins and outs of it all but my friend is insisting that the story is false, she seems very bitter towards her birth-mum and says 'I want to go and find her to find out what the truth is and to see who I look like' - my fear is that if she looks like her birth-father it could cause all sorts of grief.
I have access to the electoral register so said I could help her out but am wary of doing this because I am not sure she should be doing it this way. Surely she should receive some counselling?
Does anyone know if this really is the kind of thing a social worker could or should know and do you think I should offer the help I can, or maybe try to talk to her some more about how she should best handle the situation if she does track her down?
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beanieb · 28/07/2008 19:19
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