We at stage one of the adoption process and we have a birth daughter who is 7. Being trying for no. 2 for 6 years. 2 ivf fails etc etc.... At first I wanted to wait until telling our bc but with sw coming out and research books around, some family and friends knowing, it's started to feel like we're keeping a big secret from her and doesn't feel right. So we decided to tell her, just played lego and talked about family and friends who have brothers and sisters and gently approached the subject by saying that we were looking into adoption. We have friends who have adopted so it's not alien to her. I knew we'd have a little apprehension as she's very happy being an only child but he response was worse then I thought. She said she absolutely doesn't want to do that and it's not fair if we're all not happy about it, and after a while said that if we do she'I'll move out! (Yes she's only 7 not 14) then we've had tears.
So after feeling excited about our new chapter I'm now really worried on the affect this is going to have in our very close happy family unit. But having a bigger family is all I've ever wanted. So we're even worse off now than before, back to secrets I guess as I don't want to keep upsetting her when it's such a long process. Anyone got any advice or experienced this with their children???
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Rosiemae1234 · 06/11/2016 10:37
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