Regular poster but name changed as I've previously shared some info and don't want to out my DS.
More,or should I say now correct info has come to light regarding DS's history today.
My heart is breaking to think just how much worse life must have been for him than we ever thought as its looking highly likely that there was physical abuse, something his previous useless SW was adamant didn't happen. I know I/he will never fully know as thankfully he was too young to remember and perhaps it was rather naive of me to believe that his SW would know what was really happening but seriously how the fuck nobody noticed or asked the questions about the visual evidence there for all to see is beyond me.
I feel sick to my stomach not only for him but for all the others still in the system who don't have their 'person' to shout and ball and to protect them, if it wasn't for me pushing and asking questions this new info wouldn't have come to light. This I might add is in addition to the incorrect medical information being provided in LAC/adoption reviews which resulted in DS being at medical risk for over a year.
It's all come about in the last couple of months but today's news has been the tipping point for me.
I know I'm preaching to the choir here and that many many more children have had much more horrific starts to life (many continuing to do so) but it seems to have broken through my shields today, I've got my living breathing miracle asleep upstairs and it's no longer about feeling sad for a faceless child, he is my child and I never ever want to him to feel that fear again or to even think that he was just a name on a list and not worth the effort to those people who's job it was to protect and care for him. The courts that despite overwhelming evidence that birth family were not capable (or willing) to keep him safe and well deciding on numerous occasions to give them 'one last chance' and sending him back into what must have felt like hell for him.
I feel he has been let down by the system more than his birth family if that makes any sense, birth family knew no better, the countless professionals most certainly did.
I just wanted to post and get it off my chest, I've had the rage all day that not only would anyone dare not to cherish this amazing child but that the system designed to protect him let him down for so long.
Shields will be back up tomorrow, if I think too much about all this I'm not sure I could cope.
DS has been hugged and kissed to within an inch of his life today, just wish I knew what was going on in that little head of his.
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