I'm having such a hard time with my kids. They are 11, (boy) and 8 (girl). They're both adopted from Russia although I don't think that has anything to do with how naughty the 2 of them are. They fight all the time. My son can't seem to leave his sister alone, he calls her names, hits her pushes her. In turn she screams, hits back, takes his stuff and is generally very annoying.
Today I lost it and told them that they are ruining my life.
The thing is part of me wishes that we hadn't adopted my DD. It's has been really hard work with her. I was floored with depression for the first time in my life just weeks after we brought her home. She has some health problems and there are appointments and worry. She is academically struggling and probably always will. Here congnitive development has been stunted by early trauma. Socially she is immature and it's so draining. She is 8 years old and we clash so much. She is stubborn and so defiant. I dread to think what she'll be like at 15.
I sometimes think that if we hadn't adopted her we would have a much easier life. My son is a likeable child. If I'm honest I prefer his personality and find it much easier to love him and I like him enormously. We would have more money and more freedom and more peace.
I know this is a safe place for me to post such terrible thoughts. I know you'll be kind to me here. I know some of you have had similar thoughts.
I'm not a bad person, I'm a bad mother. I don't seem to have it in me to be better
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gabsdot45 · 08/09/2015 09:22
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