I've changed my name for this post and I'm not sure what I'm asking but I'll just pour it out. <br><br>The Rotherham abuse scandal is all over the press and we finally have (from the press) the answer to how our child was conceived. Without any doubt at all now he is the result of one of these abusive "relationships" between a young (but over 16) girl and a mysterious (almost no info in CPR) man. Lots of hints were made in the CPR and we asked what they were hinting at. They hinted a bit more but now it's as clear as day. (I don't want to list all the reasons I'm certain but there are lots). <br><br>So my son's birth mum was exploited (do I call it "abused"?) and his dad was what? An "exploiter"? An "abuser"? A"rapist"? <br><br>I'm a feminist with masses of experience working with victims of abuse but the labels seem huge now they relate to my child. <br><br>We've written to Rotherham saying, in light of what's come out, we want any other info they have. But why? Can this new and even "seedier" angle on his life ever possibly help my son. I know the truth is important but his mum thought she was in a relationship with his dad (there's a lot of detail suggesting she was being exploited/pimped) but should we dig for the truth or let it slide away? <br><br>Please understand that the language I've used is the language in my head as an emotional response. I absolutely believe that the victim of sexual abuse is no way to blame at all for what's happened ever.