Hello everyone,
We were approved earlier this summer and are just beginning to hear details of potential matches - all v exciting!
One of the profiles we have seen specifies ongoing direct contact with the birth parents. Surprisingly this child is a young baby rather than an older child who already has an established relationship with their birth parents. I obviously can't give any more details but I wanted to ask:
- does anyone have experience of a similar direct contact arrangement with a young child, and if so, how has it been?
- (as I think the above scenario is pretty rare) does anyone have any experience generally of planned direct contact?
We are not averse to direct contact in general, and from what I've read, research suggests that it is better for direct contact to be in place from the beginning, than for an adopted child to be closed off from their birth family only to later seek out contact with their birth family in an uncontrolled way via social media or similar. (I know some people on here have experienced this exact scenario)...
That said, direct contact with the birth parents is a v different prospect to adopting with indirect contact, so we've a lot to think about!
Any personal experience of the above would be v much appreciated.
Thanks :-)