I recently started a thread after a break down in bridging and had some very kind and supportive replies.
Having calmed down a lot! I can say that we made the right decision to stop the bridging before placement although we bitterly regret not telling the Social Workers of our increasing doubts through the frenetic days of bridging.
We can now see that we just did not have enough time alone with the child as another sibling was present a lot of it which resulted in fighting and constant uproar and the behavioural problems we witnessed were worse than I imagined, although we were told of behavioural problems beforehand. The foster parents seemed barely able to contain them and admitted that after 14 months had not been able to do much with them she also said the siblings had been the worse they had seen in 26 years. We did not tell our Social Workers of growing doubts because we were unsure and thought they might stop bridging altogether and we would lose our chance of what could be a case of us getting used to the child. This was such a mistake.
Having discussed the bridging with our Social Worker I can see that we were in the wrong there and she said it was very upsetting and confusing for the child and did we realise how upset the child was as a result of our actions. I asked if we would ever be considered for another match but she said she did not know. We are waiting to have a meeting with the Adoption Manager.
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ShootingStarsinthesky · 04/06/2014 21:02
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