Hi all. Dds have been with us over a year and we are adopting next year, we waited as DD1 is older.
We have had a few issues with DD1, particularly asking her sister to sexualy abuse her and I hope/think we have managed that pretty well. No further incidents, she knows it is wrong and has started to understand a little that she should not do it. She is thriving in all other areas but is not yet settled and fully attached.
Recently she has started a behaviour that I feel is linked to the previous one. She will grab a hand/s and get dad, me or sister to slap her on her head and face. We of course stop immediately and explain that play fighting can be fun but often ends in tears because someone may hit too hard and she will get hurt. Also that if she makes DD2 slap her she may do it when DD1 doesn't want to play and DD2 won't and cannot be expected to know the difference.
I am presuming this 'wanting to be abused' thing isn't unusual and we can only talk her out of it. But I would welcome views esp if I should be taking different action.
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MissFenella · 13/12/2013 22:27
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