Our DD is always saying she will 'just go then' and we never take her seriously on those comments. We never give in to the 'fantasy' and let her leave or help her pack a bag etc. I know if we did allow her to leave the house she would probably feel very upset and might even think we wanted her to go (she is a sensitive little soul). Also,in the past, when we went for walks with the dog etc if she got upset about anything (not having charge of the lead the whole time if her cousins were there, for example) she would just stop and say she was not going anything and in the end we waited with her until she was ready to go on, at times she could be quite stroppy but I felt walking off would not help and in the end it would be me going back for her!
Anyway, I am just wondering how all this might play out with a child who had been adopted. How might you/I/one parent differently?
Just curious really as I wonder how common this threatening to run away/leave/go away thing and also the stopping on a walk out and not wanting to go any further etc is!
Must say the stopping on a walk was when DD was younger (maybe 6, too old to carry and perhaps too young to realise that we still had to finish the walk so it just held us all up!).
Any comments from adopters very welcome, please, or anyone else who has experienced this and found something that works.
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Italiangreyhound · 18/02/2013 16:32
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