Hi all im mum to four the youngest is 5 years old and lives with us on a special guardianship order, shes been with us since she was 7 months old, she was in care from 10 days old until she came to us.
After having three birth children I was experienced in their care, my little girl was in a great routine thanks to her foster carer and settled well, she was very pleasant and we all bonded quickly however she was very demanding and whingy, she got more frustrated as she got older and was a little delayed in sitting up and crawling, she sat up at 10 months and crawled at 12 but then was fine with walking at 14 months. She has always been a baby who would go to anyone, no clingy ways or anything like that, if anything she loved to get attention from strangers or other people. As she got older this did get to be a pain and she then would use people to get treats especially while out at our daughters dance class, it was like she was obsessed with food and using it as an emotion or something but when she did arrive she couldnt handle lumpy food and never took food to her mouth if we offered her rusk or anything like that
As she got older she developed little issues with clothes, bumps in her socks etc we did speak with the health visitor about it but nothing more happened there. Shes always been demanding, theres no waiting patiently for things it has to be done there and then and if I say wait a minute she will either mither and mither or go to someone else in the house.
Shes 5 now 6 in april and it feels like she getting harder and more demanding, she is so loud and hyper all the time, theres no sitting down nicely, she stands and talks to herself like shes talking to a room full of people, the issues with clothes have got worse, today shes gone in to school so upset because her clothes didnt feel right as theyve dressed up today as a fun day for christmas. She doesnt listen, you can say something to her or ask her not to do something and she just goes ahead and does it and when I ask why she says she doesnt know why she did it.
We recently had her parents evening, shes in year one and her teacher actually took me by surprise when he described her, i assumed she was fine in school so thought maybe it was us but he said she doesnt listen, cant concentrate, fidgets, messes about when shes on the carpet, they cant get her to write, she never gets her spellings and struggles working with numbers above 5. Her reading is still on the first stage of books and he said you can say something to her one day and the next shes totally forgot. Her levels on sats are at W so below level one which is behind for her age.
The headteacher has observed her in class and said there is definately something with her but he cant put his finger on what it is.
Shes still no stranger fear and if one of you was to knock on my door tonight and ask if she wanted to go to the park she would happily go with you.
Shes a petite little girl, small in comparison to the majority of her class, shes only about 2 and half stone so tiny to say shes coming up for 6, she is a poor eater although obsessed with food its like she panics if shes not got what someone else has.
As her mum drank in pregnancy with her we have been researching FAS or rather the effects as she doesnt show obvious features of fas, other than a thin top lip or at least I dont think she does, so any advice or thoughts on how she is would be great
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littlemiss06 · 09/12/2011 15:02
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