So despite having a conversation with my friend that we will ONLY buy for the kids this year, she tells me...

[brokeoven]

Ive got your present and your DH's.

Gahhhhh I cant afford to get them some thing as well as their kids.
Also i am SO stressed now as i dont know what to get them.
Ive looked what i have collected over the year and i STILL have 17 people to buy for...19 now with them two.

What do you suggest???

[5GoldenFimbos]

Tell her the truth, that you can't afford to buy her and her dh something.

[Ragwort]

Just remind her that you agreed to only buy for the children; if she insists on giving you and DH presents just accept gracefully. Do NOT feel pressurised into buying her something back.

[brokeoven]

Ahh she is just so kind and lovely and a very generous person.
I thought we had come to an agreement as she was ALWAYS buying gifts for us for no reason at all. Flowers and cake and chocoaltes and toys for the kids.

I couldnt cope with it, all overwhelming and unnecissary.
I sound very ungrateful dont i, but really it was every time i met with her, she would have bags of stuff for us.

[alfabetty]

Give her a bottle of wine with some ribbon round the neck or a plant and say - really, next year children only please

[LikeSurprises]

I am like that with my good friends, always bring cake/chocolates/wine/fruit for no reason. Now will give them little present for christmas but I never expect anything back! It's just the way I am and my mum is the same. But it's bit cheeky though after you've just had an conversation about NOT doing adult presents.. Well, just get her bottle of wine and/or little box of chocolates if you feel you want to give her something. But if she's like me she won't expect anything back