menstruation stopped

(122 Posts)
lifesamystery Mon 05-Nov-12 12:31:46

My dd is 14 and had her first period in June this year, followed by a second almost exactly four weeks later. However, there has been nothing since then. Is this normal? Nothing else has really changed during this time!

AnyFucker Fri 09-Nov-12 13:01:51

Heh

sassythebloodFIRSTy Fri 09-Nov-12 12:43:27

Lol at ivykate

TaggieCampbellBlack Fri 09-Nov-12 12:38:01

DD hasn't gad a period since june.

We had a text conversation...

Her- why haven't i had a period for ages

Me- you better not be bloody pregnant

Anyway. She's not but it was my first thought.
She dances and is twiggy.

ivykaty44 Fri 09-Nov-12 12:25:34

Is that why you posted it twice?

AnyFucker Thu 08-Nov-12 13:34:37

I must be a Jekyll and Hyde character then grin

AnyFucker Thu 08-Nov-12 13:34:09

I must be a Jekyll and Hyde character then grin

AmberLeaf Thu 08-Nov-12 13:00:12

A few kind people? and the rest of us are what?

Just because you have heard more than you wanted to, doesn't make the rest of us mean for stating the obvious!

Good luck with it all.

lifesamystery Thu 08-Nov-12 11:52:33

At the very beginning of this thread, I asked a simple question, out of ignorance and fading memory. A few kind people responded and put my mind at rest that things were probably normal. I have done research since that shows that they are likely to be correct.

For those of you that are genuinely concerned, please trust me. If she still hasn't had a period in another couple of months then I will get her checked. In the meantime, neither of us are worried and I think it is time to bow out of this conversation!

EchoBitch Thu 08-Nov-12 10:02:15

Are you going to take her to the Doctor?

You know,just in case there is something the matter?

I would suggest getting her checked for PCOS, my periods were very irregular from the beginning, and I was diagnosed shortly after. If she did have that, and it was left, she could start getting other symptoms, such as excess hair, which would obviously be unpleasant for her.

Oh, and if it is the Royal Ballet School, the chances of an eating disorder would be very high, the pressure they're under there is immense! (sorry if this is way off the mark!)

AnEerieAirOfHorror Thu 08-Nov-12 09:55:49

Also it could be a drug to stop her periods or to delay the changes?

Or indeed too much excersie.

Declutterbug Thu 08-Nov-12 09:44:29

PS look back through my posts and you will see I have not commented on the things that upset you at all. I think that discussion is irrelevant to the central point of this thread, which is your concern for your dd and her health.

Floggingmolly Thu 08-Nov-12 09:43:53

If it's somewhere like the Royal Ballet School, then anorexia is not totally unlikely. I would take her to the doctor just for your own peace of mind. Whst's the harm?

Declutterbug Thu 08-Nov-12 09:42:38

lifesamystery You know your dd and we do not. However neither you (I assume?) nor we are doctors who have examined your dd. this thread has gone a bit wonky on one issue and you've been offended. Please don't let that stop you getting a professional to check you dd smile.

AnEerieAirOfHorror Thu 08-Nov-12 09:39:24

Op there are worse things in life than being pg at 14 by the way.

lifesamystery Thu 08-Nov-12 09:38:32

Perhaps I should add that she was not selected for her school on the basis of income or intellect. I am not prepared to say more about her school although I'm sure you would love to know. Suffice to say that, from the information you have already, if I were to mention the actual type of school she was at then it would narrow it down to about 40 girls in the country and given the nature of some of the more unpleasant posters here I wouldn't be comfortable with that.

Declutterbug Thu 08-Nov-12 09:37:37

Will you come back and let us know she's ok? smile

I hope it's simply one of those teenage hormone things, but there are other possibilities besides the two discussed on this thread. From here:

"When should I be concerned?
Your daughter should be checked out by a doctor such as an adolescent medicine specialist or pediatric gynecologist with expertise in figuring out menstrual problems in teens. So if your daughter hasn’t started her period by age 15 or three years after starting breast development or she has had her period before, but stops having them, or even if she’s just late, it’s always a good idea to check in with a healthcare professional."

And

"What complications is my daughter at risk for?
The most important thing is to figure out the cause of the late periods:
She may be fine and just a little late with regulating her periods.
She may a hormone imbalance called polycystic ovary syndrome and needs to be checked for cholesterol and diabetes.
She may have an ovary or thyroid problem and need hormones.
Or she may have low estrogen levels from excessive exercise or low weight, and may be at risk for low bone mass.
Without enough estrogen, not only do menstrual cycles stop, but also the body is prevented from being able to absorb calcium to build strong bones. This can result in low bone mass. Very little bone mass is added after you are 20 years old, which means that the teen years are very important for getting the right amount of bone for your lifetime.
Everyone (teen girls especially) needs the right balance of exercise, body weight, calcium intake, vitamin D, and estrogen levels to have healthy bones. Make sure that your daughter takes in 1200-1500 mg of calcium and vitamin D (600 units/day)."

Please do make sure she is checked out. From what you have said it's been longer than 45 days. It could be the first symptom of a whole long list of other problems that it is good to find early. It is a remote possibility, of course, but definitely worth excluding by a quick and simple gp check smile. After all, if it was an adult MN user then we would tell them to get checked, so please do the same for your dd.

AnEerieAirOfHorror Thu 08-Nov-12 09:36:53

I would like to know what school she goes ?

If you are worried take her to the gp and get her check out dont post on mumsnet as we dont know you and we cant examine or run tests on your dd to find out way her periods have stoped.

It could be normal for her
It could be a medical reason
It she could be with child

But we dont and cant know

Take her to the gp.

lifesamystery Thu 08-Nov-12 09:33:08

No, it could happen to almost anyone. Income and intellect are no barriers to being pregnant. Not having the time or ability to mix with boys, however, are.

LineRunner Thu 08-Nov-12 09:30:11

I do feel rather sorry for those of you that think that this is so unusual!

That's terribly kind of you, ma'am.

Floggingmolly Thu 08-Nov-12 09:27:03

Her school is extremely exclusive and selective, but not for the reason any of you will be thinking.
I know it is not possible for my daughter to be pregnant, kind of like I know it is dark outside
Ah, I see. It could only happen to skanks at the local High School. You sound quite mad actually.

lifesamystery Thu 08-Nov-12 09:06:40

I don't think her being pregnant would be a reflection on me. I would be sad, of course, if i felt that she couldnt talk to me but she can and she does. This whole thing is because for some equally sad reason people out there do not believe that it is possible to know and trust people as well as I know my family. I do feel rather sorry for those of you that think that this is so unusual!

Djembe Thu 08-Nov-12 08:52:02

I think you could do worse than reflect why you see her being pregnant as a reflection on you in any way though. She probably isn't, but if she was, it's not down to you!

Mrsjay Thu 08-Nov-12 08:33:38

If your daughter is underweight I would get her checked out they may have stopped because of her weight, get her checked out

lifesamystery Thu 08-Nov-12 08:29:56

I said several pages back that perhaps I shouldn't have said that I was offended but I said it because I was. That is my prerogative and I still don't think that people needed to get on their hobby horses because I made one comment. Did get a bit confused, was trying to imply what people thought they knew about me by making assumptions. It was late and I stopped posting cos I was tired.

There is something, that all you people who think I am pompous and deluded have not considered. I have said openly that I at one point thought she may have an eating disorder. If I was that pompous I would have tried to sweep that under the carpet as well. An eating disorder is a mental illness with far reaching physical and emotional effects and can have a much greater impact on the long term future of a teenager than pregnancy. I have said that she isn't pregnant because I know she isn't. I said i considered an eating disorder because it is just very slightly possible.

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